How can a guy make female friends?

Question

I hardly hung around that many people in my life and if I did, it would be with other guys. I hardly was friends with girls because of what I saw about them.

How can a guy make female friends? How can a guy trust girls?

Answer 1

Well...

Just look good and talk smooth.  That'll probably get them going after you.

I'm sorry. I'm just kind of pissed right now because my friends tend to ditch me for guys.  

Lol.

Hm... Try being nice.  Smile and compliment them or something.  Don't approach a girl with the intention of taking advantage of her, but with the intention that you want to care for her. That should work.  

You can trust most girls.  We're not bad.

Answer 2

Just talk and flirt with them. Just so you know, girls talk a LOT.

Answer 3

You don't provide your age which makes this much more difficult. I, however, am a 16-year-old guy who (is straight and) has around a 90% level of friends who are female. Okay, this in large part has to do with my natural nature and who I am. (Did I just say "natural nature?" Whaaaaat?)

But here's my advice to you. I'm a-thinkin' you probably are hoping to make female friends so you can get yourself a lady lover, but as that's now what you asked about, here's my making-friends-with-girls advice, most of which is transferable anyway.

Girls are different from boys! Anyone who tells you they aren't is lying to you! You know this, obviously, because if they weren't different, you'd be friends with girls and boys equally. Girls tend to avoid expressing their emotions directly, and prefer to avoid conflict much more than guys do. (If you make a guy angry, he's more likely to be like "what the f***? no, you're wrong and you're an a**hole" whereas a girl is more likely to be equally angry at you, but not tell you. This makes communicating difficult sometimes! You really have to attune yourself. If a girl looks a bit annoyed at you, she might be TOTALLY CRAZY FURIOUS at you but hiding it. Even if she seems totally fine, she might be upset. So be careful! Be sensitive, and think about what you say.

If you're uncomfortable talking to girls, you need to sort of script things until you're more comfortable with that specific girl. Work out a good repertoire of things you can say to her. Practice them until they sound normal. "I really like your camisole" isn't a phrase you are used to saying. You might not know what a camisole is. Work this out.

The best icebreaker is a sincere compliment. I am assuming you want to be friends with girls you think are…interesting or pretty or something. Limit yourself to ONE COMPLIMENT PER CONVERSATION though, otherwise it's crazy. Example:

You: "hey, those are some nice shoes!" (this is the stereotypical teenage pickup line, by the by.)

Girl: "oh these old thangs? i got them at H&M in Paris last summer…"

You: "oh! i was in Nice just last week!" or "really? i have cousins in Paris!" or "ah, my friend worked at H&M once. it's a really crappy company to work for…" or "really! H&M? they get everywhere! are they a european chain?" or whatever.

Sound interested in everything! Don't talk about yourself. Girls love to talk about themselves. If conversation gets awkward, have a large artillery of natural-sounding questions you can ask about them. "So what did you do with your summer vacation?" is a good one because there's SO MUCH TO TALK ABOUT. "Oh hey! Did you see that new Batman movie?" is another good one if it comes up naturally. Don't be like this:

You: "So, where did you get that attractive green bra I can see poking out from your tanktop?"

Girl: "Uhhh…err, Old Navy…"

You: "So did you see the new Batman?"

Girl: "Not yet but I want to see it some time soon…"

You: "Oh, cool, so how was your summer break?"

Come on. You know how conversations should work. Listen to her, and be interested, and respond with questions until it looks creepy. You can do it, sir!

Answer 4

just talk to them but don't be flirty like your gonna ask them out. Try to make friends with girls you know aren't mean and if they are mean stop hanging out with them or tell them how you feel. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Talk to them and be honest to yourself.

Answer 6

what do you mean what you saw about them and what do you mean how can you trust girls? what did they ever do to you to make you not trust them?

Answer 7

Just start a normal conversation with them.Me personally,I like a guy who's funny,and doesn't act like they're trying to flirt with me.Just walk up to them and say "Hi,I'm (your name here) !" and from there,it should be easy to strike up a conversation.Hope this helps!

Answer 8

well coming from a girl, who has nothing but guy friends. i look for guys who can be themselves. who never try to impress me or act like someone else, but in the same manner a guy who has respect for women. and open doors or pull chairs, or just give a hug but not try to make a move on someone. my guy friends are guys that are really easy to talk to and always have time to talk. that is what girls look for in guy friends from my opinion.

good luck.

&& its awesome to know

that a guy wants girl FRIENDS

Answer 9

Don't be a d**k.

And show offy, conceited jock-type guys? We hate those.

We hate jerks who make us feel bad too.

Answer 10

You did not say what you "saw about them".

Answer 11

Being nice is key. That alone could win you a million female friends. Girls like individuality, so don't be afraid to just be you, don't ever change for anyone, and always smile! An extra tip, girls appreciate the small things in life, giving a compliment will give you quite a few brownie points.  

Answer 12

OMG,They invented something,its called "Talking!" Oh god its the latest thing out there!

Answer 13

talk to them during class  

Answer 14

Be funny and flirty.  But don't cross the line, remain their friend.

Answer 15

If you're a jock, jerk, or anything that start with J, then we pretty much hate you . :) Jealous, etc. Except for joker ;D

I suggest that you really just talk to them, get to know them, but don't approach them with a weird line like, "HEEEEY" o_o; We think it's weird and we'd definitely won't want to talk to you ever again. We love confident guys so just approach us with a hello and we'd start a conversation right away. Just not when we're with our "girlfriends"