How can a man disagree with women here and not be labled a misogynist?

Question

Please forget the guys who are plain rude and believe women are inferior. This question is about the guy who believes women are his equal but disagree with some things?

Answer 1

I respectfully disagree with a lot of the points of view on here. But I also like LOLCATS, so I am too loveable to be labelled !

Answer 2

never quarrel with a woman, never fight a knife with an axe.  it is better to look like an *** than fight with one

Answer 3

1. He can do it respectfully without name calling, pre-judgment and stereotyping.

2. If he doesn't say anything that leads the reader to think he despises women, then he will not be labeled a misogynist.

3. It might be worth noting that you seem fond of throwing the term 'misandrist' around quite lightly, by which you seem to mean any feminists here. Perhaps you should get your own house in order first.

Answer 4

You can disagree with the women, without problems.

When you disagree with the feminists, whatever truth, logic, or wisdom you offer ... they will disagree and paint you as a man hater.

Answer 5

If he doesn't say anything that leads the reader to think he despises women, then he will not be labelled a misogynist.

It might be worth noting that you seem fond of throwing the term 'misandrist' around quite lightly, by which you seem to mean any feminists here. Perhaps you should get your own house in order first.

Answer 6

Just say what you think. People call each other names on here all the time. Have your say and don't worry about it.

If all of us who got called names worried about it, the stress would be killing.

Cheers :-)

Answer 7

Why can't we all just get along? Would that be too much to ask for...?

Answer 8

I understand what your talking about because I've seen it happen, but the best way is just to be polite about it. There's always going to be some overenthusiastic feminist who gives the rest of us a bad name because they took offense to something stupid. Don't stop voicing your disagreement though, the world would be a dull place if everyone agreed.

Answer 9

He can do it respectfully without name calling, pre-judgment and stereotyping.

Answer 10

Well, not all women on here are like that.  But I know exactly what you're talking about.  Many women-and even a few men- seem to think if you disagree with women (read: feminists), you must be a misogynist.  I've seen that label thrown around too loosely at other men and myself.  It's to the point where I usually ignore it, because the person saying it often just can't disagree with others logically, so they resort to underhanded name-calling.  There are times when the word can be used legitimitally, but not nearly as often as it's used on here.

Answer 11

He should be able to. Just like if you disagree with a man, it doesn't automatically make you a man-hater.

Labels are usually inaccurate and prejudicial. At least that has been my experience.

Answer 12

He can't. Say ANYTHING that counters a woman's view (the feminist view in particular) you are labeled a misogynist.

Answer 13

Erm, you can't. Women and logic, there's your problem.

Lizard King

Answer 14

Everyone is different and has different opinions.  You may disagree with some women but that does not make you a misogynist by any means.  It is a persons belief and value system and the way they present their argument that makes them a misogynist, sexist, racist, etc.  All people have the right to have an opinion and present it respectfully.  When my daughters are faced with someone who is racist or sexist I have prepared them to "state their case" against what the other is saying calmly, rationally, and intelligently.  Unnecessary name calling, general disrespect, and yelling are all indicative of a small minded person.  It's OK to disagree, you are alright!

Answer 15

They aren't, but because there are so many losers on here that are just completel misog idiots, they probably get tired and automtically think the next guy is starting the same.

Answer 16

Now my question to you is why if a woman doesn't agree with the some of the ideas, beliefs, or sayings as some of the men in here, then why is she labeled as a feminist or "feminize" as some of the guys like to call them?

Just because a woman see's things differently than some men (and some women) it doesn't make her a feminist, it just means that she doesn't agree. Which is what I see a lot of in here.

Answer 17

I answered a question you posed a week or so ago, which was a little similar to this one. I'll include some of the points made there, and add a few more.

There are different varieties of feminism, so to speak which translates into many different definitions. I know something that frustrates me, is when I answer a question, and someone interprets what I say by their pre-determined definition of what *all* feminists think. Assumptions are made, such as "If she believes this, she *must* also believe that". I find that some people here often make wrongful assumptions, without even reading each other's responses.  We are not homogenous in our views (as another Y!A member mentioned) just because we might identify with a particular issue.

I think it's important for us all to be mindful of the ways in which we pose our questions, and to be as specific and clear as possible. I also think we need to be mindful of "loaded" language, such as misogynist, man-hater, etc unless we are specifically talking about behaviours that are clearly defined by those terms. Being called misogynist when a man simply wants to praise a woman's beauty is ridiculous; as is calling a woman a "man-hating L*****n" because she doesn't want to be a SAHM.

I enjoy debating with people, no matter how much they disagree. I find it interesting to understand how different people view the world. I have absolutely no problem with disagreement. I do however, have a big problem when there is a clear lack of respect in the ways in which we respond. I occasionally show a little aggression when I read preposterous things here, and I'm happy to be told to "pull my head in," if I show disrespect towards someone.

Unfortunately, because there are some supremely idiotic responses and questions here much of the time, it means we have to wade through pages and pages of moronic statements, before we can get to the interesting questions and answers by the handful of fantastic men and women here (at least that's my experience of it.) I find that exhausting, and it can give the impression that world truly is fudged up. Thankfully though, the few people here who show humility, logic and empathy keep me coming back.

Answer 18

I don't think some body's a misog simply for disagreeing. What are some of the things?