How can adopt a child with ma's blessing?

Question

I’m 17yrs old, already making 1500$ a month &will make more money when I get better at the job. Next year going to aviation school &the year after gonna be able to buy a small apartment. My previous job when I was 14 was a babysitter, although the true reason behind it was to see if I can take care of kids from 4 to 9yrs old as much as I love them. Unluckily the mothers didn’t like the fact that their kids cry when it’s my time to leave. Right after I can adopt a child legally I will since I’ve what it takes to be a single mother. Mom said “well just don’t expect me to try to not treat your kid as a stranger in our family” which makes no sense cuz I myself adopted and so other persons in our family. She’s claiming that it’s important to enjoy life till I at least become a full-women (lose my virginity). As if having a child would be a torture! I mean isn’t way much better than adopting a freakin’ dog?!? (Same job yet better deed)

Answer 1

Raising a child is NOT the same as having a dog! When you understand this, then maybe consider having a child.

Answer 2

As I said to your previous question (which you deleted for some reason):

1) You cannot adopt a child as a child (i.e. a 17 year old).

2) Adoption agencies will not allow adoption if you do not have sufficient economic means (generally making over $45k a year with a significant amount of savings).

3) The adoption agencies are generally hesitant to allow single parents to adopt.

And just to let you know, being enthusiastic around children for a short period of time doesn't mean you have a way with children.  Raising a child is WAY different from playing with one a few hours a day.

Answer 3

I'm laughing at this post.

I'm assuming you want Ma's blessing because you know that if you get into aviation that you will be away from home pretty much all the time and you'll need her to raise the child as well as support him/her and you  because for the first 5-7 years you won't be making jack after taxes. Too funny

THUMPS DOWN PLEASE EXPLAIN YOURSELVES BECAUSE I DONT DONT GET YOU.

Answer 4

Your grammar needs to get better before you adopt.

Answer 5

I love children as well. I have always been able to reason with them even when their parents could not. Every holiday, when 20 or so family members come over for dinner, the kids (there is 5 of them who range from 18 months – 11 years old) always follow me around until I play with them (most of the time I don’t even get to eat my diner). I truly love kids and would love to have a few one day. I am 20 right now with a job that pays a lot more than a student usually makes, and I would never think about adopting a child in this stage of my life.

You are still learning and making mistakes along the way. A child is a HUGE responsibility. Your heart is in the right place, but I feel that you have not thought this through enough. It is a lifelong commitment that will place in your hands the life of a human being. Making a mistake on your own is one thing, but making a mistake when you have a child could be fatal. I think that your mother is not against adoption but rather does not want you to make such a commitment when you are so young and is acting as if she is against adoption in order to try and steer you away from such thoughts.  

Another problem is that adoption agencies have very strict laws when choosing a suitable parent for a child. I do not think that they would allow such a young person to adopt. And though you may be making money, how much of it have you been able to put into a savings account? Would you be able to provide this child with everything he/she will require to have a happy and comfortable life? After paying your mortgage, amenities, transportation costs, general living expenses, will you still have money left over for the child’s clothing, school etc as well as be able to put some money away in savings?    

I fully support you wanting to adopt, but you have to wait. Being a babysitter is a blast because you are with the children for a few hours during which you play around most of the time. Having to raise a child, spend every second of every day with them, is a completely different story. Like I said before, your heart is in the right place, but it is not the right time to think about having a child.

Answer 6

Are you crazy?