How can he get me in the mood?

Question

Im 24 and have been with my husband since we were 17. with s*x, its so easy for him to get turned on but for me its so hard. hes tried a lot of stuff but nothing seems to work...

dont know whats wrong with me. pls help

Answer 1

hes a man anything gets most man turned on hes probably not attracted to u physically anymore! just talk to him and ask him if hes turned on by you still and you tell him if your turned on by him and tell him what you like. you both probably feel the same thing emotionally about each other  

Answer 2

You just lost interest . If he was a wild and crazy abusive  guy that was out doing other woman you probobly would still be hot for him . Your board he bores you some old same old . Figure out what turns you on and go for it .

Answer 3

You two need to get away from your daily routine.Go for a week end trip to where you've never been before and try to end up in a quite place for both of you.You just need a different atmosphere.

Answer 4

It's probably best for you to try and figure out what 'gets you going', and for you to then get him to do it, if the sexual attraction is there, there shouldn't be any problem.

Try different things, the best thing to do is be overly experimental, even trying things you personally don't think you will like!

You can then find out what does it for you and what doesn't.

Make it exciting, get your adrenaline rushing and maybe get him to talk dirty and get him to tell you 'how naughty you've been, and how he's going to punish you' (as an example) if that's your kinda thing!

Hopefully, you'll be turned on in no time.

In brief, take yourself off, maybe use toys or just yourself to try and figure out what sets the blood rushing and what makes you feel s**y!

I'm sure then your man doing it for you will do the trick!

Answer 5

diesel powered jack hammer

Answer 6

stop thinking about it.

every woman is different when it comes to what turns her on.  stop trying and just let it happen.  it's MUCH easier said than done, but it works for me :)

Answer 7

Perhaps you can tell him what excites you.

Answer 8

He will just have to be patient. Some girls seem to be a little slow when it comes to s*x. You'll be fine.

Answer 9

Your going to think this is funny, but your question insinuates that a female in bed with you and your husband would solve this problem you have.

Answer 10

have been in that situation myself and based on my own experience:

--1st reason..i got bored with our s*x..the solution..we explore wider and have been open with our exploration..

--2nd reason..emotionally disturbed..with all the pressure at work and at home plus with a kid..and all other responsibilites..affected my sexual intimacy with my husband..the solution..tried to relax myself..find time to myself to do whatever makes me relax..like getting a massage..beauty treatment like getting facial..watch movies..dine out..go to the beach..etc..anything that relaxes me..

Answer 11

The questions isn't how he can get you into the mood.  Rather, it's how can you get you into the mood.  What in your life is causing you issues with this problem right now?  Is there a lot of stress in your life?  Have you recently have a child?  Once you figure out what may be causing you to have issue, then you can look at what he can do to help.  For example, if you work all day and then spend all evening taking care of a family while he sits on the couch and relaxes, he might be able to pitch in around the house more, giving you more time to relax whilch will allow you the time and energy to get in the mood.

Answer 12

first of all, this is normal. women usually dont hit their sexual peak till late twenties to early 30's. i experienced the exact same situation as you. most women prefer affection and cuddling and since its takes more effort to get our O, it just seems like a chore. what worked for me was watching p**n together, roll playing, whatever works for you. just relax and it'll get better. im telling you if you concentrate more on his pleasure than on yourself, this will give you tremendous pleasure and help you relax. i really hope it works out for you!!

Answer 13

ask him 4 s*x

Answer 14

I am recently married and for our honeymoon we went to Disneyworld.  There was and older woman at the ticket counter who offered a few words of advice to us.  She said that at some point in a marriage one or the other can seem to fall out of love but stick it out together because the feelings will come back to you.  

I think this holds true for your s*x life as well.  You not getting turned on could be coming from a deeper issue such as an overall slump in your relationship.   Try thinking of everything you love about about him. Love and infatuation alone can make the slightest touch do the trick.  Think back to when you first started dating, did he do anything differently then that you might want him to do again?  Or.... Have your feelings changed towards him any?  There have been several studies done which prove that things your man do outside of the bedroom such as cooking or helping you clean can help your s*x life by lifting a burden off of you.  

Answer 15

Have him do an imitation of meatspin.

That should do the trick.

Answer 16

You need to open up and tell him what turns you on.If you don't then you are setting yourself up for another woman who will do cartwheels in bed for him with multiple orgasms included.

Answer 17

you did not say if you were normal and this happened recently or it is since the begining ... if it is recent thing that a vaction away from him may do some good ... but if it is since the begining you should see a doctor.

Answer 18

nothings wrong just arent the right type. sorry.

Answer 19

It depends, has this always been a problem or is it recent?  If it's recent then you need to analyse what has changed.  Maybe you no longer trust him or you've drifted apart emotionally, maybe he doesn't talk to you much anymore?  If the problem has always been there then that is much more complicated & you really would need a s*x therapist & should not have let the problem go on for all these years.

Answer 20

Try watching p**n first or buy some s*x toys to play with, alone or together.  Are you in love with him?

Answer 21

Do you Love hime?

Answer 22

Spice it up some.Go to a campground out doors,this will liven things up

as for you you just need to be open to suggestions and put in some  input.

Answer 23

He should dump you.  Perhaps that will make you appreciate him and relight the fire.

Answer 24

Maybe you should get a few toys, and lotions, maybe you have a low libido, which and be helped by drugs.  Are you afraid of getting pregnant?