How can he hate me one minute then make love the next?

Question

My husband agreed to a divorce, told me that he was not sure his son was his, said he was pressured into marrying me, told me he believes I cheated on him up until we got married and that he does not trust me. He begged to see the son he is not sure is his, then tells me he loves me and wants to make love. I think he is crazy, but I would like some feedback. I know there is not enough room to write the whole story, but I hope you can do your best. Thanks for reading.

Mary

Answer 1

It seems as though he sounds extremely insecure.  If you have never given him the reason to not trust you, he either has something he is guilty of and doesn't know how to say it.    It sounds as though he doesnt know what he wants.  

Answer 2

He is obviously confused, disturbed, selfish, etc. Or all of the above. Personally, I would suggest if you want to continue on with the marriage, get some counseling. If not then stop sleeping with him... Men and women due to the way we have been socialized think of s*x in different terms. Men for release, women for affection... So stop having meaningless s*x with him unless you are getting something out of it as well. Simple.