How can i be a good daughter to my parents

Question

I`m 20. I have never been close to my father and he is a good father. We used to fight a lot while I was a ten, but now I can clearly see my mistakes. He finds it hard to show feeling and I am similar too.

I am best friends with my mom but still I sometimes make really bold comments about the way she looks or behaves.

P.S. My parents are divorced.

Thanks :)

Answer 1

First of all, I want to commend you on your decision to be a good daughter.  That takes guts.

I have a similar relationship with my father.  He is the world's best Papa, but we don't demonstrate our feelings to each other.  As he once told me, "You know how I feel and I show it.  I know how you feel and you show it.  What's to say?"

Between your father and yourself, the best way to show your respect and love is to obey him, and respect his authority.  You're a grown woman, so he doesn't have complete control over your life, but he does have a lot of wisdom to share.  Listen closely to what he says ... he's not likely to steer you wrong.

The situation with your mother is one that is totally foreign to me.  I would never dream of being "best friends" with one of my parents.  They are parents, not friends.  As my maman told my sisters, "If you want a friend, get one.  I'm your mother."

The reason you're willing to make such bold statements to her is because you consider her your best friend.  Best friends are always willing to speak their minds to each other because, after all, that's what best friends are for.

But she's your mother, not your friend.  If you disapprove of her behaviour or her appearance, speak to her quietly about it in a non-confrontational manner.  If you speak to her as a daughter, and not as a "buddy", she's likely to sense your respect and give more credibility to your suggestions.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

Well I really like it when my girls do something for me that they know I like. So surprise him but dont expect him to be happy or thankful. Just do it and I think it might help

Answer 3

fathers forgive very easy you need to relate to him on his playing field study up on somethink he like and give a great adult conversation h**l love u all over again do that bout three times with the moms thats just how women are but all dad wants is to see you master your life a lil bragin is prob ok too shows confidence