How can i be more social? I don't party/smoke/drink/ or "hook up", so people think i'm s****....?

Question

I'm just not into the whole keg scene, and i let people know it. not like preaching or anything, but if they ask me about it, i'll say i think it's trashy and i'll move on.

I guess i'm somewhat social, but not super. I'm a cheerleader, so i'm sure that adds to it. When i become friends with someone, i'm automatically great friends with them. I have about 8 people i consider REAL friends. then probably like 15 people i feel comfortable talking to regularly other than that. then everyone else is pretty much a stranger.how can i do more to help that?

Answer 1

I am like you I dont do any of that, I have no enemys and everyone I meet likes me, but all my friends smoke and drink, but what I do is I go to parties and just chill, going doesnt mean you have to drink

Answer 2

well it's better to have a few real close friends than lots of random people who tend to hang around. Your real friends will respect your decisions and on the nights they want to party than you can do something you enjoy and maybe the weekend after you plan the weekend of shopping and going to dinner and a movie together. Although your friends shouldn't feel bad about liking parties ..it's part of there high school experience and you shouldn't call it trashy because you'll end up making them fell bad about themselves and friends don't do that. they respect the fact that you are not a huge fan of them and you should respect that they want to experience these things while being young. Maybe you can compromise and go to a party to just mingle, don't have to drink, just enjoy being with your friends :)

Answer 3

be yourself but with a better attitude.

Answer 4

Compliment random people on random things, even if they don't respond. Bring them in to your conversation, ask them what do they think about what you are talking about.. They will soon feel comfortable with you and before you know it they will become your friend... then find out what you have in common. There are plenty of things to do if you are the straight edge type dont do any partying, play pool, bowling, movies,dinner. etc.

Answer 5

Eight real friends?  Most people can't even count their best friends with one hand.

Good for you--really.