How can i be nice again?

Question

I don't know why, but i can't seem to tolerate people like i could a few years ago. I don't know if it's my job-i work as a Conveyancing Assistant so see clients everyday or just getting older?

I used to be great at the whole fake smiles and meaningless conversations with relatives at parties etc but i just find myself being about to do it less and sometimes standing there blankly as i really can't fathom what to say. Is there something wrong with me, i'm only 20? I smile etc but i dread smoozing as i get worried that it'll be really uncomfortable.

Answer 1

Just be yourself and be honest.

Answer 2

When I was 20, I was pretty much the same ! I worked and went to College, studying at night until 3:00 a.m ! I am 39 now, (I graduated College) and only what you will experience in life, will make you change (for the better or the worse, of course) !!

Maybe, you could change job and try, at all times, to look at something positive in the most "negative" situations ! Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Maybe you're feeling a bit depressed or, if it's temporary, perhaps a touch of PMT?

Answer 4

you try to learn from others from the same proffesion

Answer 5

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are right where you are at, and at any point in your life the key is to allow yourself to be aware of the situation, accept it for exactly what it is, and then, and only then, take action if you, and only you, decide that any action is necessary.

If you are honestly uncomfortable with being a blank and meaningless person who dislikes their job, well, it is your responsibility to change this. Dissatisfaction with your life is something only you can attend to. No one can do this for you.

Volunteering to help others who are not so fortunate as yourself is a good start. It is a real wake-up call to dish up dinner at a soup kitchen, or give some time to the food bank or the needle exchange. Also good for the soul is putting in some time at a no-kill animal shelter, where they need volunteers to come in and play with the animals.

An entire change of career may be needed to prevent a life of depression, which is where you could very well be headed, with the letter you wrote. Try working in an assisted living, where helping fragile elderly people will bring a new appreciation to each day you get to have in good health.

Take some classes in your off hours either on topics you know you are interested in, or learn something completely new that you know nothing about.  Learning meditation from a qualified master is a great way to find yourself some peace.

That smile-n-schmoozing thing really gripes my a** too, but I work at balancing my life so that I don't obsess and turn into a total b*tch. That said, I allow myself to be a b*tch when it's safe. Keeps me regular.

Answer 6

I believe there's not use to make anyone nice but then again if it's what you are there's no turning back and be yourself, people will respect you for that but not if you are nasty to them. White people really just tolarate you people cause we have to, not because we like you.

Answer 7

Try relaxing, lying on the ground and looking at the sky. that kind of thing it can help to relax you and if you feel better you tend to tolerate more.

Answer 8

keep ur heart pure nd dont worry about others.u r nice n u vl b

Answer 9

Take a long vacation and come back renewed.

Answer 10

Dear you r getting too conscious to deal with people .and seem to be overexerting .....just take leave for a few days ...and refresh urself with what u like  the most.....make self analysis ......

nd come back rejuvinated.....u will be as nice as u were!

best of luck

Answer 11

As we grow older and get more comfortable with ourselves, we also feel less the need to impress and to be likeable by everybody. We become more selective in our relationships and more sure of ourselves. I found that in my late 30's. You probably are very lucky, inteligent and grown up.

As long as you still have your friends around and enjoy being with them, as long as there is some members of the family that you can find yourself being comfortable with and enjoying their company, you're cool.

Now, if this situation is happening with EVERYBODY around you, keep an eye on it. Maybe your  are frustrated at the way your life is heading and getting a bit depressed?

All the best.

Answer 12

So why do you think being fake is nice?

Answer 13

Youve finally realized that other people can be bloody annoying. Arrogance is infectious. I hate people sometime, they dont even have to do anything wrong. I'll just think in my mind of someone that I dont like and ridicule them. I think its normal. So long as you can maintain the fake smiles still and be polite on the outside, there really is nothing to worry about.

Answer 14

Life is too short to be spent angry, stiff & disconnected. I suggest you look for activities that you really like to do, or at least that you can force yourself to enjoy and get on with it.Find your own happiness and self-loving, once that's in place, you will find that the annoying things peope do don't affect you so much. I don't advice you do the faking thing, you are starting to feel an emptyness somewhere deep, in a few stressed years, it could lead to depression. You too good to go that route. Do you know your purpose for being here (on earth, I mean)? Then pursue it, and the time for meaningless conversations will dwindle while you do things you love.....