How can i become more patient with my hyper 5 year old ?

Question

I have a 5 yr old that is very hyper and at times, I lose my patience with him. It is becoming more and more frequent.I have other children and they don't test my patience the way he does. He is not a bad kid, he just bounces off the walls, talks ALL the time. I am a stay at home mom, in RN school part time and my husband works away from home. I can see I am breaking my son's spirit and it is killing me. I love him for all the beautiful things he is but he takes up so much of my time that I can barely focus on school and our baby. Does anyone have any tips to help me calm myself and be more patient in my dealings with him ?

Answer 1

Make sure you give yourself breaks from him. If you need to, hire a babysitter for a couple hours and do something you enjoy. You can also give yourself miniature time out when he's really getting on your nerves. Tell him to hold on for a minute, walk into the next room and take a few deep breaths.

Answer 2

on the 700 club i think there had a all naturl thing for kids with ADHD it helps clam them down. and airplan pilots take it to help with stress. i cant remember what it is called but i would look for something that helps clam him down i think part of his brain is too active for him. my sisters boy is like that. and if u get on to him oh boy u are in for it. i found it it is called L-Theanine. it helps with stress and ADHD u can talk to his doctor and see. they did a study with twin on the 700 club and the twins said that they would do way lots more cause the meds there were on made it hard for them to grow but with this they can eat and grow and still play hockey. and get him into something that makes him put that good brain to work. my sister got her boy online to noggin. com they have so many games for kids. and he is five too almost six. if u need any more help let me know. good luck and god bless

Answer 3

My son is like that, literally bouncing off the walls can't sit still for more than 5 seconds.  He is heading off to kindergarten in 5 wks and I know he will drive his teacher nuts if he keeps it up.  I do lose my patience with him sometimes but end up having to walk away and take a few breaths before I walk back around him.  Make sure you take time to breath too.  It can be hard to raise such a "spirited child".  My son is turning 6 this friday and he is like having 4 kids combined with his energy level.  i wish I could bottle some up for me.  They put him on meds for PDD/Aspergers/possible ADHD and that doesn't even start to calm him down but atleast he does sleep more at night (he is even hyper in his sleep).  Try to find activities to keep him busy, lots of things that he can do while moving but you also have to work with him at his age to sit down because in kindergarten he wont be allowed to run wild.

Answer 4

First of all I would set aside a special time every day at the same time to spend with just him. Maybe when the baby is at nap time.  I don't mean in the same room when you are on the phone, feeding the baby, making lunch etc.  Speaking of making lunch, let him help you from time to time.  It will make him feel usefull and more mature.  As for his hyperactivity, I would make sure he is eating a diet rich in natural foods versus a lot of processed foods.  There have been studies done that link hyperactivity in children to food coloring, high fructose level and overly processed foods.  Also, if he is on a routine everyday than it may eliminate his anxiety.  Hang in there.

Answer 5

5 year olds can really be hyper....he may be trying to catch your attention .....they like being noticed so try to talk to him and tell him what you want him to do?if he doesn't obey you, ignore.....that way he'll know you really don't like how he's acting..

Answer 6

Yoga & chocolate!!!  Yoga to help you learn to relax in a split minute..like when you start to feel aggravated.  Chocolate because it always makes people happy & when you're getting angry you should take a bite & instant happiness.  lol !  seriously, i know EXACTLY how you feel, i thought i was reading about myself when i read your question...it is very tough, but hang in there & try really hard to remember its a phase, but then everything is 'only a phase'.  think about your son's future everytime you're getting angry, what will your words do to him...make them positive...maybe you could help him make a lullabye for the baby, that should calm both kids.  if your 5yr old was the baby b/4 new one came along, you're gonna have to help him be the big brother now...good luck w/ everything!

Answer 7

If you are in school and have a new baby, older children and a hyper five year old, you are seriously overloaded.  You need some help and a break.  Can your older children or someone in the neighborhood take him to the park to run or is there a preschool where he could go for a few hours every day?  You will be more patient if you have some time to yourself.  You might want to check the library at your school for information on attention deficit disorder.