How can i break out of my shyness easily thats not hard?

Question

x[ im so shy i cant look at people i dont no in the face or even people i no for like years, the only people i can are my friends i hang out with every day, help? :O im scared when i grow up ill be to scared to marry a girl that i wont get married till im 85 and then choose online dating then get a person named al thats tougher then me :(. lol ^-^ any help girls? o.O

Answer 1

Lol you sound just like me, if you don't mind im going to star this question and come back and answer it when I have thought of something better to say :-)

EDIT: Since im still having trouble with my very own shyness issues, I will just copy and paste something I found over the internet that has been helping me for the past month, if you don't mind :)

1. Figure out what makes you feel shy. Do you become shy in front of audiences? When learning a new skill? When venturing into a new situation? When surrounded by people you know and admire? Try to pinpoint the thoughts that go through your head right before the shyness hits. Then come up with some "I" statements that you can repeat to yourself, like a mantra, to head off those thoughts: "I can do this", "I look good", "I have something to offer", etc.

2.Build your self confidence. Everyone has some special gift or trait to offer to the world. It sounds corny, but it's true. Think about what you know, what you can do, what you have accomplished, not about how you look or sound or dress. And keep in mind that everyone, even the "beautiful people", has something about themselves or their life that they don't like. There's no particular reason why your "problem" should make you shy while their "problem" doesn't make them shy.

3.Get comfortable. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, and build up your confidence through them. Eventually, this will translate to other, more comfortable situations.

4.Close your eyes and visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now, in your mind's eye, make yourself feel confident. Do this often, and for different situations. This is most effective if you do this daily, especially in the morning. It might feel silly, but athletes use visualization to develop their skills, so why not you?

5.Maintain close bonds with your friends as they can be there for you when you crack out of the shell! They'll be glad to help and might even be pleased at your progress.

6. Laugh often, but only at things you find genuinely amusing. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling and will make you feel more relaxed.

7. Smile. A small smile in the direction of a stranger may brighten your day, and will brighten theirs, too! And it's a pretty good start to any conversation with anyone, stranger or friend. It breaks the ice and it loosens up your facial muscles, too.

8.Set goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily accomplishments, then gradually become more daring.

9.Make a list of situations that make you feel anxious. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations, start working through them, one-by-one. The first few "easier" situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes; take it at your own pace but make an effort to push yourself.

10.Practice good posture and speaking clearly. Standing tall gives the world the impression that you are a strong person and that you feel good about your abilities.

11.Introduce yourself to one new person each day. It is often easier to talk with strangers, at least briefly. After all, you may never see them again, so who cares what they think about you?

12.Make new friends. Talk to somebody you would never think about having a conversation with. Try to find people with your own interest and find excuses to talk to them. Start a conversation with a simple compliment like ,"Hey! I love that shirt!" or "Cool shoes." Most people are nice and will be welcoming to your advances. It is also great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to popular, charismatic people.

13.Try doing stuff you never dreamed you would. Doing something really outlandish, like sky diving, will: a) provide an endorphin rush; and b) give you a story to tell when you are making conversation with people. And if you can find the courage to do something that big, then something like talking to a cute girl/guy should seem easy.

Hope it helped...it helps me =D

-Cookiez Are Good

Answer 2

I am super shy as well ( I am a girl). I have a really hard time talking to people that I know...I am afraid what they will say. The odd thing though is that I have no problem talking to strangers. haha, how weird. Sorry there is no easy way to overcome shyness. I really think that you should just try. It might sound weird to you but who knows what it will sound like to another person. You should try taking a speech class. That way you will have no choice in overcoming your fear. Don't worry, it will all work out. The greatest cure for fear is to just face your fears head on. Good luck.