How can i control my severe anger?

Question

firstly there is a point that I'm a very patient person and this patience is the cause of my problem. at times i get very frustrated and angry. and i feel like to destroy everything around me and might kill somebody which i hate the most. i try to control it and try to calm myself. certainly for sometime i calm myself but i keep that anger stored in my inside for forever. also I'm unable to forget what happened either its a small thing or a large menace to me. so when i don't show or get outside my rage i feel alot depressed and always lonely because there is no one near me to whom i can share my feelings to get relaxed a bit. many people say to consult doctor or specialist but seriously i don't wish to go there!!!

Answer 1

If you are for real.  It sounds like you need some serious meds or help.  If you really want to feel better, what would it hurt to see a psychiatrist?

Answer 2

first of all how old are you? i have some of the same problems as you. my mom took me to counsiling when i was about 9 and i hated it because i didnt understand how it would help me. now i wish i could go back!!!!! i know that a counsilor cannot be with you 24/7 to help you when you get angry and need someone to talk to. maybe if a counsiler isnt what your looking for then try just talking to a close friend who understands you. if that makes you feel uncomfortable then what i used to do is take a nap. i woke up refreshed and my anger was gone.

Answer 3

I have the same anger problems.  Music calms me down alot when im really angry, and not calm, relaxing music like people say is supposed to help, cause that doesnt work.  Usually stuff like metal.  Just try to think about something, and that will eventually lead to something else, and before you know it, youll be thinking about something totally different with your mind off whatever made you angry.

Answer 4

Don't fight it, that'll make you angrier, and yes i think i read one comment that said heavy metal works? DEFINITELY either listen to music that gets the anger out until youre exhausted, listen to soft music like alternative rock until you feel better....or C. listen to sad songs until you cry yourself better; i have done all three and they work

Answer 5

It sounds like you never express any of your rage or anger, which is why you can't forget these things.  I don't think you need to see a specialist yet, because you haven't tried everything.

You have to let your anger out.  There's a lot of ways you can do that too.  You could...

---Scream into a pillow.

---Write down what you're feeling.  (It may be best to keep a journal of how you feel.  That way, if nothing works and you do go to a doctor to can show it to him.)

---You could try to draw or paint out your frustration.

---Exercise.  You could go either way with that.  You could do something relaxing like yoga or swimming to calm yourself down.  Or you could do something active like running, tennis, soccer, etc...where you can be as agressive as you want.

---Or you could do something you really enjoy when you feel like you need to express your rage.

I think after you find a way to release all your anger you'll be able to forget most of the things that tick you off.

Answer 6

I find that listening to very loud heavy metal music and attacking the punching bag in my basement helps me.  I used to be like you -- patient to a point, but would bottle everything up inside and would blow like a volcano once I hit my boiling point.  My best friend in the Air Force was the same way, and he got into martial arts.  He stuck with it, earned a black belt, and now doesn't have a problem with angry outbursts anymore.  Try to find some way to release your anger and frustration, and remember it's always better to hit a punching bag than a person.

Answer 7

Go out and get some exercise if that does not help , hit a punching bag and lastly go talk to a professional.

Answer 8

well therapy would help but try meditating. yoga. hypnosis. it works! :]