How can i convince her.?

Question

i got a horse last year, after 8 years of riding and leanring i got my own horse.

but he lives over 10 miles away.

so when i do see him its just to re-rug him( only if its cold/wet/hot)

or

feed him ( he lives in a 20 acre paddock he doesnt need much else)

or to ride, which i can only spend about 3 hours ( 1 hour riding, 1 hour grooming etc, then he has his feed then we leave) i cant take too long.

i tried to convince her to move him to a closer establishment but she just get annoyed at me. shes not horsey, so it feels like she doesnt enjoy the paddock.

ide love to just walk outside and be able to pat him( my horse), or just watch him. he doesnt feel like mine , people at the paddock help me look after him but its not the same.

i hate sitting at home want to see him.

i cant ride there bymyself because im 16 so i have to have mum at the paddock

how do i convinvce her that it would be so much better to live where i can keep him or too move him somewhere closer

Answer 1

when i had my horses and we lived in the city, they were at least 15 miles away from me, i did get to see them more b/c they were at a barn where different trainers/riders were at and we all rode together ect.

but i would say that you're 16, in the next few months you should be able to start learning to drive, at least then you can ask you're parents to borrow the car and go see the horse more.  if you're not allow to ride w/o a parent then just ask nicely if they can put aside two-days a week to come watch you ride, they dont have to stay the whole time, just plan it out.

i really dont know what else to suggest b/c you have left a few details out. like, are you paying/helping pay for the board, how many times a week do you go out, how much land do you live on (if you're wanting to move him to youre house). little details like that will help out with better answers/suggestions.

Answer 2

Parents are going to scream at me as I am an adult now but do what I did. Beg, plead, drive them crazy. You have to slow down when they get really mad but as soon as possible start in again. And look everywhere even if you just see an empty piece of land. Find out who owns it. You would be surprised how inexpensive some people will let you rent a peice of land for. It is so worth it. You are absolutely right when you are dreaming of what it feels like to be able to look out your window and see him. Heaven on earth. But even being able to hop on your bike when you need him would be wonderful. She is not understanding the importance of this to you and you need to keep trying to make her understand. I just read an open question posted by Pamela O titled 'Thought fellow horse adorers would appreciate this? You have to find that question, read it, print it, and show it to your mother! Your going to cry when you read it the author feels the exact same way you do about her horse. Your going to love it.

Answer 3

Is your family really in a situation where you are able to keep him at home? Horses, even a single horse, need room and they also need to socialize with other horses. Many areas simply don't allow livestock (which horses actually are labeled) I understand that you love your horse and want to be with him as much as possible but sometimes that's always possible right away.

Right now it sounds like he's somewhere that he's being well cared for. If an emergency arrives there are always people there to care for him ect. That's always a big plus. Try to look at the good points for now and maybe your Mother will reconsider later.

Until then sit down and write out a list (an honest and realistic list) of both the pros and cons of keeping him at home and keeping him at the barn he's at now. Show that to her and discuss reasons other than just because you want him closer. Allow her to add her input and suggestions to the list as well. It will give you both a clearer view of the full situation as well as show her how mature, and serious you are about the decision.