How can i convince my friend to shave her legs and wear deoderant without sounding mean or demanding?

Question

everytime i think about telling her the old, "if they're really your friends then they shouldn't care" line pops up and smacks me across the face.

but one of my best friends has a pretty 'offensive', tear jerking pit odor, and i don't think she realizes how badly she smells like burger king onion rings.. plus she wears a lot of shorts, and she literally has a rainforest growing on her legs. i know i shouldn't care and shouldn't be embarrased, but i do care and it's really embarrasing walking around with her. plus the smell of her pits and looks of her legs really do bug the c**p out of me and the other girls in our group..

&& the only reason why she doesn't use deoderant is because she thinks it causes cancer when she read about it on the internet somewhere, and she said something about shaving being bad or damaging to something or something. i didn't really hear her clearly when she was talking about why she doesn't shave.

Answer 1

well.. u try to convince her by giving a list of advantages of shaving and using deodrant.. tell her that u too are using it and that there's no side effect.. but if u dont do that then it might be a thing of problem.. u need to talk to her... talk to her when no one's around... she'll understand..  

Answer 2

WEll tell her to stop breathing because breathing causes cancer too. Don't shower either because that causes cancer as well. Well and don't eat or drink anything every because that causes cancer as well.

And tell her to put deodorant on because she stinks and that is unattractive and disgusting! And if you weren't her friend you would not say anything and if you weren't her friend you wouldn't had put up with it for this long.

Shaving well that is another issue and their are a lot of woman that don't shave and American woman really are the only ones that concern themselves about it! So you can't really say anything about that.

Answer 3

Ask the school nurse or a hygiene teacher to speak to her.

Answer 4

Explain to her how much guys would be attracted to her... maybe that'll convince her. then when she finally shaves, tell her she has to keep shaving or it'll look weird... (thats no lie.. lol) and then tell her Deoderant doesn't cause cancer, and that thing she read on the internet is lying, and give like.... some Clinical Deodorant. eesshh... or tell her that if she isn't going to smell better... then you have to be at least 3 feet AWAY from her. rofl .

Answer 5

i have a friend who also things deoderant gives you cancer. BUt the differnce is she went out to the store and bought the deoderant that doesn't have any cancer risks, and the shaving thing it probably does cause damages, but there is always waxing.

Answer 6

therre is some natural deodorants that don't have that kind of stuff.  nd when u tell herthat take her to walmart or something the next time u go nd say that u found an all natural deodorant that is against the cancer things   "this is true"  and show her them and also get some for yourself...so she gets the idea then tell her that NAIR waxing won't damage her skin or any thing and also buy a small pack for yourself "u don't have to use it just so she knows that you will probably use it to

Answer 7

You and your other friends need to come up with a "day of beauty"... get your mothers involved and stage an event of sorts. Do presentations of makeup and the latest fashion trends, have a nurse come do a presentation on personal hygeine for girls (douche, contraception, dealing with manipulative boys, talk about various infections like candida), have a hairstyling and makeup workshop. Do a chocolate and fruit buffet.

Have a raffle prize or two and make sure the stinky friend gets it.

I personally use the non-toxic mineral based soaps (Tedco Miracle II soaps) and the Thai Deodarant stick that you wet and rub under the arms. A lot of drug stores carry different brands of these, so shop around.

Answer 8

Okay, there was this really geeky girl in my high school and a lot of people felt bad for her. (Now, I know your friend isn't a geek but they shared some of the same characteristics, poor hygiene, amazon legs, etc.) A group of girls took this geeky girl shopping one time, just as a gesture of friendship, and they paid to get her hair done. She also did not wash it, so they bought her a bunch of really good smelling shampoo and deodorant and the like. Is there an excuse where you guys could take her out and do something like that? If not, show her a website where it says that deodorant doesn't give you cancer. lol. And yeah, there's always waxing and Nair.  

Answer 9

So buy her the 10 dollar clinical strength deoderant and tell her "it wouldn't be clinical if it wasn't safe duh"  if shes stupid enough to believe what she reads then maybe she will believe that, then buy her some Nair!  Its not technically shaving!

Answer 10

Wow! Well you need to tell your best friend that if she wants a boyfriend or if she wants guy friends then she needs to put on deodorant and shave her legs. Cause everybody sweats, and its just plain gross to have hairy legs. You need to do your own research on what she says about shaving and useing deodorant, show her that it isn't true, and every girl/woman shaves unless its against their religion or something. If she gets offended then you need to tell her that your not trying to be mean, and that your just trying to help. Just tell her in a normal voice. Well I hope I helped!