How can i convince my mom...

Question

My mom believes in no fun what so ever lol. But is there anyway i can convince her to let me dye my hair any kind of weired color or keep it simple a.k.a dark hair blond bangs? also how can i convince her to let me to continue to let me make my gages bigger. all i want is a size 6 fleshholes and a size 8 gage would be fine to? Also she is always on my back about the way i dress (punk) no way else to describe it, any way to get her off my back about that as well?

Answer 1

Well everyone knows you'll grow out of this "punk" stage. It's inevitable. So maybe she just thinks you're wasting your time. Oh and you're going to regret getting gauges.

Answer 2

Maybe you just shouldn't and may thank her later.  What are you doing after high school?  You go piercing things and stretching things and many places won't give you a good job you know you're capable of doing.  Look at your mom's side; she's trying to put your best interest first, not hers.  Having a degree and sticking out in the workplace doesn't mix, unless you're a really, really great musician or artist.  The odds of being successful at those before you're dead are worse than being struck by lightning.  Think about it.  Ask for the wash-out coloring.  Look for the jewelry that LOOKS like piercings.  Compromise.

Answer 3

Wait until you're old enough to do it without parental permission, then you'll be sure you want it. What if, that in five years, you don't want huge holes in your ears or something?

Your mom is only looking out for you and doing what's best for you.

Answer 4

She doesn't sound " no fun "

She sounds like she watching out for you.

I think you should be able to dress the way you want to if you pay for it , your hair will go back to its regular colour, so  if you pay for it yourself why not ?

and the peircing.... Well If you arn't old enough to get it yourself then Oh , well ... You have to respect that seeing as it a hole in your body.

Just talk to her , explain that you want these things because ........ (whatever reason you have )

Answer 5

Your best bet is to ask for one thing at a time! Your mom is obviously worried about your appearance, what people will say about you and her as a parent. Ask slowly. First maybe with hair coloring. Suggest that you would only use wash out, or even Halloween dye, when she realizes it's not so bad ask to do semi-perm. As for the piercings, ask why she says no. Don't get defensive or upset. Remember she is looking out for your well being. Ear piercings can close up but when you stretch them out too far then you could develop problems. Look up information online and say you know about the long term concerns. Do you have a friend who she respects? Growing up I had one friend who my mom respected and if she was allowed to do something then chances are I would be able to too. Maybe go to the mall with her were she'll see other teens dressing the same way. Your mom is also probably concerned about you growing up too quickly. Talk to her or maybe try to make it something you could do together. Like with the hair dye! Good Luck.

Answer 6

hey whats a gage??

Answer 7

she probably doesnt want you to give off an image that is associated with being "rough, tough, trouble maker, drug addict" or anything like that no matter how nice or how much of a good student you are, but you are at an age where you can dress yourself and find whats appropriate for you, you have to dress based on the image you want to create, if you want to create the image of a "punk" then do so, but if you want to not be associated with that image then scale back a bit.

as for hair, its temporary so convince her that you can have some fun with it while youre young, but as for gages, if they become too huge and you want a professional career, then you will have to take them out and get some kind of operation to destretch your ears so dont go too big with them.

Answer 8

Just sit her down and explain that it's your body. You need to experience things in order to figure out who you are. And when she says that you're not that "kind of girl," just tell her you want to find that out on your own and you can't learn with her always telling you what to do. It's like learning to ride a bike, eventually she has to let go and let you try on your own. And make sure you tell her it's better now then when you're older to figure thins out, thats why we're teenagers, we're learning. That how I got my mom to let me pierce my cartilage and dye my hair pink (: I hope that works.

Answer 9

Lol my mums the same.. So old fashioned x)).