How can i convince my mom to let me get married

Question

i'm 17 i have been with the same guy since 7th grade we have broken up once when high school started in 9th but we where only separated a week before we knew we should be together.we have been talking and we both have good paying jobs and we are starting our senior year.i know i am ready to get married and he does too.but its my mom she is saying that he dosent deserve me she has too high of expectation he is so nice and has never done anything wrong to them.i want to get married before december so i can have a winter wedding.how can i get my mom to approve.cause i want a close family and i don't want her to disown me at all WHAT DO I DO!

Answer 1

i dont think your mum will back down. if you both love eachother and are really committed why don't you wait till next year when you are legally an adult (in UK)??? at least then you've proved your're serious by sticking to the wedding and plus you'll have a little more spending money for that snow white wedding.

Answer 2

What, is this up coming december the only december in your entire life that you can marry?

Wait until you two are completely self-supporting..until then, you're too young and not independent of your mother yet.

Answer 3

Why do you need proof of your love for each other? I believe you're too young to get married. A wedding is highly expensive and it's not just something you do and then regret later on, even if you say you will stay together forever, most couples do.

Don't convince your mother, either wait a year and no one but you and your boyfriend will have a say in this case, or just wait a few years. You're 17. At least live through your teenage years

Answer 4

First of all, tell your mom you understand her concerns (even if you don't say that anyway XD) considering how uncecessful many young marriages are.

Tell her you just like she probably knew with your father, you know that he is the ONE for you. Tell her you believe this is the perfect time to be married, during the winter like you really want. Say you want a close family and you really would like her approval of your marriage, that it means a lot to you that she would be supportive of you and the man you love!

Answer 5

LOL...wow you sound so young.  Grow up a little more.  Let life ruffle your feathers and see then if you want to marry him.  

REMEMBER YOUR AGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... 17!

also you don't need paper to prove your love.  

Answer 6

Well to earn respect of your mother is to do what she wishes until you are fully adult to make up you mind.

And do not have s*x since this restraint though unpopular in this society of today shows maturity and ambition that you are responsible.

You are 17 so it is understandable that your mother worries. If you wanted to be treated responsibly then take what she feels into consideration even if it means waiting. She will change her mind because you showed her honour and decency

Answer 7

If you want a winter wedding, you can have one during the winter when you are 23. You should not be getting married if you feel you need to have your parent's permission. When you get your own place and he does too and you are living independandly from your parents, then it will be the time to t hink about getting married.  

Answer 8

How about you guys get engaged?

Engagements can last years, and you guys can get married after college. That way if you go to the same college you can live together, you will have time to save for your big day, you will still be together and both you and your mom are happy!

Answer 9

wait til ur legal (18) and tell your mom 'mom, i really think im ready for this. i know its a big step. i am old enough to do it, and i am not asking for your permission, i'm telling you. i'm sorry if you disagree but i love this guy. we both have jobs and i believe it will work out"

Answer 10

I hate to tell you this... wait. Tell him you want to see what is out there, this will be the hardest thing you ever do. See what is out there, you may see something you didn't see before, I know you wont pick my answer but please go and see there are a lot of things out there you need to see as a single adult.

Answer 11

You don't want to hear it but..You are too young to get married..

Way too young.

Have fun in your teen years..wait until you're at least in your 20's

Marriage isn't all what you may think it is..

There's sacrifices, heart ache, trust issues, bill payments, etc etc etc..

If you truly love each other..a few more years won't matter..

Answer 12

You wait til you are 18 genius.

Answer 13

In general, I would say that 17 is very young to be getting married.  But I don't know you or the situation as well, and I know you can't fully describe it in one paragraph.  I would say that if you TRULY believe that you should get married, and you explain this as well as you can to your mother and she still doesn't understand, ask her if she thinks she would approve if you waited one more year.  That way you get what you want, and she might be happier.  One year won't hurt you that much over a lifetime... you'll still be with each other :-)

Answer 14

If you ever want to get married don't move in together. Your age is enough  of a divorce risk, don't add the extra risk from cohabiting before marriage. I know that you think that statistics apply to everyone else, but they have to come from somewhere.

Answer 15

If you want to keep your relationship with your mom healthy, give her more time to accept it.  What's the difference if you wait another year.  You'll still be with your boyfriend...engaged and all.  A long engagement can be a good thing.  What's the rush on a wedding.  You still have a lot of growing up to do.  Don't rush into the adult world.  You'll regret that while your friends all enjoy their youth.  You don't believe it, but a lot is going to change in the next 5 years of your life.  Slow the h**l down!

Answer 16

do not get married yet. personally i would wait till i finished college and everything and i was settled down.the chances of teen marriages surviving are very low. but if you can't wait that long, then wait until you turn 18.

Answer 17

Wait till your both 18 and out of high school. At 18 you get to make your own decisions. Then what about the rest of your life? In this era you need a college degree. And someone needs to work and pay the bills. Think it all the way through. Who is going to pay the rent? Or are you gonna stay at his parents house and live off them?

Answer 18

Wait until you are 18. If your Mom doesn't agree than it won't matter what you say so wait another year and get married when you don't need your Mom's approval. No matter what it doesn't seem like she's going to agree and after a certain point in your life you have to stop living for your parents and start living for yourself.

Good luck and God Bless...  

Answer 19

this wont be the last winter.  wait a few years.  see if the relationship can survive through college or after high school.  if it does you are truly meant to be together.  and it will show you mom that you guys are really perfect for each other.

Answer 20

why rush things? seriously whats the hurry to get married? do you really want to be on that MTV show engaged and uderaged that bad? most of those couples broke up already.  seriously listen to your mom she has more life experience than you trying playing house with him for awhile, pay bills with eachother, live with eachother, cook for him, clean for him, do his laundry, I guarantee you your opinion of him might change a little bit, even if you still love him after all this, you might want to wait slow down, get your education completed first, do everything in life that YOU want to do, not what WE want to do, trust me I moved in with my boyfriend when I was 16.

Answer 21

Wait until you are out of high school at the least.  If you have been together so long, what is one more year?  Then maybe you get more support from other people. I am not against young marriage.  I'm 20 and getting married in a few months, but 17 is pushing it.  Wait until you are an adult- you won't regret it

Answer 22

You need to realize that you're only 17.  That's just too damned early to get married in today's society.

If a winter wedding is so important, and you truly love each other that much, why can't you wait a year or two, or better yet, five?  Will your love die without a piece of paper and a fancy dress?  If so, it's not worth having to begin with.

Answer 23

I see you have been with this guy for a long time. I think it is true love, but I think the best thing you couldd do right now is to keep things going good with him, and when you graduate get married.

Answer 24

It seems like you've done all you can. I'd say wait until you're 18. You can't get married without their permission since you're underage. Even if you got engaged here soon, a winter wedding would be hard to plan in 3ish months. You'll probably be 18 here in a few months. If you really wanted to you could go ahead and start planning your wedding. It is your life and all you can do is hope she's happy for you.

I think moving in together is a great idea. You don't really know someone until you live with them =]

Answer 25

if you dont want her to disown you than you should weight until you r out of college. do u really want ot b married when u r still going to high school? whats it gonna b like walking down the halls of ur high school, next to your husband when u r still a student?  if u hav waited this long i think you should try to wait just a little bit longer. great things take time =)

Answer 26

You're way too young to be married. 'Nuff said. I'm 32, 2 kids, been married once and always thought 'this is the one and only I'm supposed to be with forever', regardless which 'one' it was. If it's meant to be you'll be able to be together, married or not. Your post sounds like you're just going against your mom because she doesn't agree with your choice in ppl. Look past that, there's a lot of life ahead.

Answer 27

It's ok to wait for a little while. Either way, you're still going to be together, right? Being married will be about the same, except you'll have lots more bills to pay and they stack up fast. If it's a matter of your mom disowning you, it's better to wait. And this isn't the last winter ever. If you wait a little longer, you can have longer to plan too.

Answer 28

No. No.. No No No. It doesn't matter how long you've been together. I mean, it's good that you have been together for so long, but marriage can wait... It's nothing more than an expensive party and a piece of paper. You may grow to your senses about this guy after high school, and then what? It is always better to wait.

Answer 29

Don't. Just elope and the whole thing will go to h**l in 6 months. Get real You're a kid. You don't have any clue what it really means to be married. You think you want to do it but believe me - you don't. You aren't even close to ready. Graduate high school. Go to college. Make sure you can each take care of yourselves seperately. Only after each of those tasks have been completed should you even consider marriage.

Answer 30

I think you should wait a couple more years hon :/

You're only 17. There's more to think about then just being married. You're still in high school and you need to think about how you're gunna support yourself and be an adult out on your own with no one else besides that guy.

Think about it a while, at least finish high school before you get married come on. I think you can wait at least another year.