How can i convince my parents to let me pierce my lip?

Question

ok heres my situation im 16 i want my lip pierced but my parents wont let me. how can i get them to say yes. the only reasons they r sayin no is cuz they dont want it to get infected and my dad thinks ill turn into a freak hes really oldschool. i have begged and pleaded tried to make deals im a straight A student and if i just go ahead and do it they will literally rip it out w/ pliers . so im open to any suggestions on how to make this work

Answer 1

just get it done tell them to respect you for who you are and just because you get a lip piercing doesn't mean you are changing who you are and you feel like you should be able to since you do seem like a good student ect.

Answer 2

no you should get it done and they dont get infected as easy as other piercings because it will heal better as its kinda in your mouth!, i want mine done to and im not aloud i guess the only thing is wait till your 18 !,  

Answer 3

Unfortunately if you are 16 you will need them to be there to get the piercing legally and properly.  If they are opposed to it further scheming on your part will probably only annoy them more.

If you really want to get this done you will still want it in two years when you can go to the shop by yourself without their permission.  Once you are 18 all bets are off.

If you don't want it by the time you are 18 you will probably be relieved that you didn't get it done at 16.

Answer 4

For someone who claims to be an A student, you surely exhibit totally incorrect English Grammar and Composition.  I could not have passed the fourth grade writing the way you have.  This makes me believe you are probably a D student taking minimal coursework and barely passing these simple courses.

Now to the real issues.  Your parents have to make the decisions that will guide you for the next several years.  Clearly you are too young and naive to make any long term decision as you do not understand risk and value.

There is serious infection risk.  If this develops, it will require strong antibiotic treatments which may be costly and uncomfortable.  The pierce site is an infection prone site for years to come.  Failure to follow these can result in very serious illness and death.  I am sure you never considered this.

There is a serious deformation risk.  Damage can occur and often does especially since the piercing is done in non-medical facilities and by people untrained in medicine.  Scars and deformation may not be easily removed - and always are costly.  I doubt you considered this.

Some day you will have to work for a living.  Pierced body parts provide a very negative image and many employers will be reluctant to hire people who are an infection risk as this raises the health care cost the employer pays.  They don't like disfigured people either.  This will make it harder for you to earn a living.  I also doubt you are aware of these risks or have considered them.

Finally you are a minor.  Your childhood days are limited and nearly ending.  Keep peace in the family as you will want to remember the positive friendly days.  This battle is not worth the peace loss either.  

My suggestion is to drop this until you are at least 25 years old, supporting yourself, and able to look into the next 10 - 20 years rather than the next 10 - 20 minutes.

Answer 5

First, you don't say WHY you want the piecing, and I'm thinking that is because you either don't have a reason, or you don't think your argument is a strong one. Stick with me, I DO have a suggestion. I'm with your parents: it could get infected; you WILL look like a freak; you're too young - and still under their development; and again, I doubt you have a valid reason to do it. I'm guessing it's either an act of rebellion or peer pressure - neither of which set well with parents. It costs money for this piercing, yet it provides nothing in return. I wouldn't do it. SUGGESTION: Tell them that at least it's not a tattoo and/or you're not pregnant. A piercing is far less harmful than those two.

Answer 6

Tell them that you really need attention and that is the only way that you can fit in with a group in school....when they ask who?, thell them the lame *** loosers that dress like goths and have weird piercings....im sure they will understand.

Answer 7

eww dont do it i hate it when people pierce their lips

Answer 8

Ew but lip piercings are gross anyway. You'll be 18 in two years, just get it done then. And P.S., there's actually a pretty good chance you could get that infected. I got my cartilage pierced when I was 15 and it hurt for an entire year..  

Answer 9

NOOOooooooooo!

Answer 10

Maybe this could be a great gift to yourself for your 18th birthday.

Answer 11

Dont get it pierced it can get infected and if u dont treat it thats really bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dont take a chance.

Answer 12

let them know that if it truly isnt what they want you can always take it out and let it heal... just to reel them in

Answer 13

I would not suggest getting your lip pierced. Your lip is very delicate and sensitive. It is an infection waiting to happen. That is just like any other piercing. I'm not saying don't pierce your body but it is a very hard process keeping it clean.

Answer 14

IF YOUR DAD IS REALLY OLD SCHOOL SHOW HIM A VIDEO OF THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL TRIBES IN AFRICA.. TELL HIM THEY GOT A BUNCH OF PIERCINGS AND TATTOOS..  

Answer 15

Let them feel that you are so depressed... CONSCIENCE...  

Answer 16

You could maybe do a trade off. Like do something else that they really want you to do like extra work around the house. The question I would ask you is how much of a rebel (with or without a cause) you are when it comes to listening to your parents. Worse case scenario is that you wait until you're 18 like I did to get some of my piercings. However, I kind of grew out of it and some of my piercings are gone and closed up.

Answer 17

ur dad is right so if you want to ask them if you can do things around the house but I'm warning you .you can get infected

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Answer 18

First off, I want you to realize that I am 16, seventeen in 6 months. I am a junior in high school. I know you know all of this, but I just wanted to point it out so that you keep it in the back of your mind, as you read this, that I am not a child.

Second, I want you to know that I have been thinking about this for months now and that this is not a random impulsive decision. Lip rings are a big responsibility, and I am more than ready to take that on.

Third, I want you to know that if you do not let me get a lip ring now, I will respect your decision, although I will disagree with it. I will get a lip ring once I turn 18, because I won’t need your permission, and I am sure that I will still want one. However, I really want you to support me and trust me enough to let me get one now, because I want to express my style in high school, and not wait until college

Also, lip rings are not permanent! When I decide that I don’t want it anymore, I can take it out, and the tiny hole heals over easily without leaving a scar. I have researched this and have seen many personal experiences that tell me that the hole is too small to cause any real tissue damage.

I am not asking you for a tattoo (which I have seen on many kids in my grade at school), or to dye my hair blue (which I have also seen countless times). I am asking you for a simple piece of jewelry. This is just like any earring except that it’s in a less common place. You always told me to be a leader and think for myself, and this is me doing so. I do not want to look like everyone else. I want to stand out and be different. However, lip rings are not so uncommon in teenagers that I would be thought down upon for having one. Also, I have seen many people at Etowah with facial piercings, including nose, eyebrows, tongue, and lip, so I know that the school does not have a rule against these things.

Unlike a tattoo or funky hair color, I can take out my lip ring (after the initial healing process of about two weeks) when I go to formal occasions or any place where it wouldn’t be considered “appropriate.”

I know that you only hesitate on saying yes because either 1) you are afraid of the safety and health issues, 2) you think I will regret doing this when I am older, or 3) you think it looks unattractive.

To reply to those:

1) If you take me to a professional body piercing parlor, there is a VERY low risk of any complications. While lip rings are not as common as other piercings, they are still common enough that the professional has had much experience in doing them. Lip rings are one of the fastest healing piercings. They are much less likely to get infected than most other piercings, including ears. Plus, surprisingly, I have heard from friends and read that lip piercings do not hurt nearly as bad as you think they would. It feels about like biting your lip. There is the initial pinch, but then it is over with.

2) As I said, when I decide that I need to get rid of the lip ring, I can do so easily simply by taking it out and allowing the hole to heal. There are no scars and there really is nothing to regret. I have no regrets in my life so far because I think you should live every day to the fullest. There is no point in trying to please any one else or fit in with other people’s standards because they should not matter to you.

3) I’m sorry if you don’t think lip rings are attractive, but I love them. They are a great way to express my style without doing anything permanent or irremovable. I don’t understand how you could tell me to be a leader and then not let me get a simple piercing just because you don’t like how it looks.

Lastly, lip rings are not very expensive. At tattoo and body piercing parlors, they generally cost between $30 and $50. I am more than willing to do housework or other chores to earn this money and pay for it myself.

Thank you for considering this. I wrote this in a letter because I feel that if I just asked you, you wouldn’t give me time to explain all of this or let you know that this isn’t an impulsive decision on my part. I have thought about this a lot and I know that I would be much happier and more comfortable with myself as a person if I knew that how I looked was a reflection of my character and not just a clone of other teenage girls.

Answer 19

well, piercing on the lips does not give people a good impression of you, that's why. plus, you're only 16.

Answer 20

I just turned 16, and I got my lip pierced when I was 14. My mom had piercings for a while and said she would be a hypocrite if she said no. She took me to get it done by a good piercer, and bought me the appropriate products to keep it clean. Never have I had any problems with my lip piercing. If you are responsible and don't get lazy with keeping your new piercing clean, there should be no problem.

My dad doesn't particularly like it, but he loves me no matter what, and I've proven to him that having a lip ring doesn't make me a "thug".

So first off, DO NOT PIERCE THIS THING ON YOUR OWN. I swear, any kid who does that isn't "hardcore" or "tough", they are an idiot. There are blood vessels in your lip as well as veins that can become seriously damaged if you puncture them. A licensed piercer will know how to avoid such things.

Secondly, do you honestly get straight A's with the way you write? No offense, I just don't get why people can't seem to take an extra second or so to write something out properly.

And finally, if your parents say no, let it go. Don't badger them, respect their decision. They are your parents, and no matter what they are doing what is best for you. If my mom wanted me to take my lip ring out, I would in a heartbeat, regardless of the fact that I love my piercing. If your parents feel you aren't responsible enough, then yes, of course they believe that it may become infected, as new piercings are very prone to this. And actually, I think the fact that you want a lip ring makes you a freak already (haha).

Listen to your parents. Try showing them some respect. Don't try to convince them to do it, and if you still want it when your 18 then you can go get it yourself.

Answer 21

Tell them your almost 18 and America is a free country!