How can i deal with him gone?

Question

my husband left for the army

im hurt bc i want him here with me!

i feel as if i cant breathe without him

hes my happiness for real! i need him

and i feel like i cant handle this!!!!

i cry every night myself to sleep

and its been a month some far since he left

Answer 1

The best thing you can do is try to keep busy and focus of something specific.  If you want to lose weight focus on working out and getting health and looking really really good for the next time you see him.  Just remember that you have a man who is willing to sacrifice his own well being for his country and you should be so proud.  And also remember that we all appreciate the sacrifice that you are making as well.

luvlisteningtomusic and u dont know me. you could learn to be a bit more sensitive.  No one knows how hard it will be until the day they leave.  Get a life!

Answer 2

its going to be hard.. really really hard.. my best friend went through deployment twice in her short marriage... she became an alcoholic.... she is still my bff, he is home now, things are great.. but you have to be strong... you have to try, for him and for you... make army wife friends, go out  get a job.. keep busy.... write him letters and pray for him... its all you can do.. keep your sanity.. it will be hard, but you knew this was gonna happen, so now you have to be strong...

i should be taking my own advice.. my man has only been gone for 2 weeks and i feel like my world has crumbled.... just stay busy... that will help

Answer 3

i understand how you feel. i, too, am an army wife. my husband comes and goes all the time. ya know, two weeks in the field, a month at NTC, leave to go visit his family back in california, and then two more weeks in the field...and so on and so on. ive cried myself to sleep many nights and had the same "i dont know if i can handle this" thoughts. but trust me dear, you can. ive found that staying busy helps a lot. find a full time job, go to school, volunteer, hang out with friends and family. but in a way you just kinda have to be numb to him being gone. he is being strong by stepping up and defending his country, and you have to be just as strong as he is. he needs a strong woman behind him.  

Answer 4

You sound majorly co dependant and that's not a good thing.

Answer 5

You should of already knew he was in the army before you had a relationship with him.  What did you think he wasn't going to have to leave?  

Answer 6

This is not an easy question to answer...I know when my uncle left it took my aunt many months to stop crying. If is is possible try to stay in touch with him through E-mail or phone. Try to keep yourself busy and remember he loves you he will be back as soon as he can. You can also join a support group for spouses of soldiers