How can i deal with my 10 year old daughters attitude?

Question

my 10 year old daughter seems to be getting a right attitude im her dad ive tried doing the normal things like grounding her it doesent work shes good while shes in then goes right back to this attitude stamping her feet and shouting and pushing the limits all the time shes a good kid but lately just pushing her bouderies i dont ask much tidy her room once a week do her maths and english twice per week ive tried getting her into clubs ive tried doing her a plan does she need chores to do or let her play out all the time i let her out and she causes havoc when she comes in saying all she wants is to have fun and she cant stand me doesent listen to a word i say just saying im to strict please help

Answer 1

Talk about frustrating! My daughter occasionally forgets who's the parent, and I feel like c**p after punishing her. The best thing I can do is go pray with her and then let God work on her guilt. :)  

If you are not led by your religion, just be straight with her--talk frank with her--tell her why her attitude stinks, and that you have to punish her because you love her enough to guide and direct her to be an successful adult.

  The fact that she has you, her dad, in her corner, ( and these days, most little girls are without a father) you have given her tools to be a wonderful woman. It doesnt feel good to be seen as the "bad guy", but in the end, you know you are doing the right thing for her.

But it sounds like puberty is around the corner, too.  Good Luck :)

Answer 2

a slap round the **** wouldnt go a miss

oh yea i forgot ure not aloud to nowadays, what a crock of ****

Answer 3

She is getting close to the middle school age. Most kids at that time start getting moody and have temper tantrums. They are trying to find themselves and there isnt much you can do for that. You should try to respect her space but dont go over board.

Answer 4

So long as she's following the punishments and doing the schoolwork, then she's doing fine. Parents are supposed to have rules and be 'strict'. There have to be rules for the home - the kid doesn't have to like them.

Let her express her opinion all she wants - so long as the work gets done, and she understands the consequences she'll receive from braking the rules. Don't change the rules because 'she doesn't like them'. Nobody "likes" rules. Too bad. Keep the consequences consistent!!

Your daughter is past the age where she's going to be giving you that unconditional love you've come to expect. Now she'll (at best) either ignore you, or outright hate you. It'll be a bumpy decade, but we all know it's coming.

Let her express herself, listen to her, and keep to the rules.

Answer 5

Does she have a favourite toy or computer etc?

Take those from her as punishment, and don't let her watch TV or anything, then she'll be bored out her nut and listen to you forever (consistency is the key)

Answer 6

u need to spank her thats how my attiitude was handled i got an "attitude adjustment" everytime i had one and  they just got worse each time

Answer 7

A trip over your knee should set her straight

Answer 8

I've got one of these too - my mum said she is a 'ten-ager' with all the hormones and attitude of a teenager but with less maturity and sense of responsibility.  Honestly she sounds perfectly normal.  If there were any major issues be assured the school would have been in touch with you by now.  As long as she is fine at school and when she is out visiting other people don't worry too much.  When her body and her mentality matures over the next couple of years it will all balance out.  There are times when my ten year old 'hates me' but this is usually quickly followed by sobbing and lots of tears and apologies from her.  It is a sad fact of life that your little girl is growing up in some ways and her ten year old head cannot cope with the changes which she can't see or understand.  Just be there for her when she needs you and as much as is humanly possible ignore some of the temper outbursts.  You could try to explain to her some of the changes that her body is going through, this definitely helped my daughter.  She now refers to herself as 'Hormonal Harriet' when she is having a bad spell and we even call them  Harriet moments so she can at least explain them to herself.  Good luck with all this - the fact that your daughter clearly has a very loving and concerned father will help her to keep within her boundaries even if she is trying to push them a bit further than either of you are comfortable with at present.

Answer 9

Spank her.

Answer 10

ATTENTON thats probaly why because i know thats why i did i wen i was 10!? just ignore her ..trust me it'll work

Answer 11

Hi Rob,  typical 10 year old antics. What she is doing is trying to push the boundary and see how far, and how much she can get away with.

Don't give into her, if she wants anything, then she has to prove she's earned it. It will teach her respect and values, I know it will seem hard, specially if she is also seeing her mam and she's giving into her, but it will be better in the long run, for both of you.

Nobody wants, or to see their child behaving like a spoiled brat, but with perseverance, rewards for doing stuff she's supposed to do or asked to do, you should win through.

Answer 12

You could always lock her in the cellar for 24 years. I am NOT recommending this, but it IS an option.

Answer 13

Having fun usually costs money, tell you have to work for it, and make her do the same.