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How can i deal with my husbands ex mistress...having a baby?

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See maybe 1 year ago...I Found out my husband had a mistress. Then I found out he was having an affair with our daughters friends mom. Well this mistress is married and she got pregnant sometimes in january of this year, she's about to give birth next month. So me and my husband are trying to work things out and i got pregnant in April. We have two girl and I'm pregnant with another girl. My husband of course will love to the the boy. I'm so scared that this s**t will be having the boy...I just don't know what to do, what to think...Please any advise so i can feel more releif...

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  1. first of all hi, and moving on to the subject i would like you to know your'e not the only one in the world going through something as tough as this. i have been married with my husband for 9 years and from 7 years back to today he has been chating on me with his brothers wife. i only knew about ONE time he was unfaithfull and im sure i only know about that one time because she got pregnant, when i knew she was pregnant i didnt know there was a possibility of it being my husbands so for the meanwhile they kept it secret, i was her BEST FRIEND during her whole pregnancy i threw a baby shower for her i gave her maternity clothes i would buy gifts for her unborn baby, i would make my HUSBAND take her to the hospital or doc. for her ultrasounds and prenatl visits, i honest to god saw her as my sister not my sister-in-law.....


    well 1 month beofre she delivered, my husband decided he couldnt keep his secret hidden any longer so he decided to tell me about his afairr, the baby and completely tore my heart out...it is deeply painfull to go back ,remember, and put the peices together...


    it is the worst betrayel of my life knowing that around the time she slept with my husband i was due for deliviring our second bby into this world and both of them had the nerve to be there and precense the birth of my second child...and just remembering hurts me straight down to the core....as i know u must be hurting a whole lot


    well fast forwarding things, she had a girl i have 2 boys whe didnt know this bby was his up until like 3 weeks ago, whe finally did a dna test on her and guess what im pregnant too, im in the third trimester.


    IT IS EXTREMELY TOUGH TO MOVE ON, BUT IF YOUR HEART SAYS TO STAY, ONLY STAY IF YOUR WILLING TO GO THROUGH THICK AND THIN WITH HIM AND HE MUST REALLY REGAIN YOUR TRUST, IF HES KEEPING YOU IN MIND FOR THE VISITS THEN HE WANTS YOU TO BE OKAY TO. IT IS VERY HARD TO ACCEPT GODS WILL FOR US, BUT ONLY HE KNOWS WHY THESE THINGS HAPPEN TO US. BE STRONG THINK AND ENJOY YOUR PREGNANCY. AND HONESTLY FORGIVE.


  2. I understand exactly what your going through and i dont know how to deal with it either. Me and my boyfriend were together from 2006 till late 2009, then we parted ways due to some things we were going through. Well i was friends with this girl that helped us get together, later on sometime in 2007 i found out they were sending pictures to each other, i had that stopped but of course they kept doing this behind my back. Like i said in 2009 we had parted ways, he started going out with the hooker he was sending pictures too, and i started to see an a*****e. In June of 2010 maybe even earlier than June me and my ex started to talk again, and decided to get back together, he was going to break up with the hooker, and i was going to break up with the a*s i was with. His lil s**t ended up texting me asking if he had cheated on her, and i told her yes and even sent her evidence that he was indeed cheating on her with me. (she"ll never be better than 2nd place!) and then he broke up with her like that day or something.  On October 9th i broke up with shithead, and on October 10th me and my soulmate were back together.


    Not even two weeks later, like the day before halloween that hooker sent him a picture of a pregnancy test that was positive. I was kind of immature about it, saying "she's only sending you that cause she wants you back." i even texted her and said "stop f*****g with his head"


    then god forbid, on November 5th I got pregnant. d**n the luck. On december 29th i had a medically induced miscarrege..you know...first come...first served...we both decided it would be best for me to get rid of my baby cause i was willing to well....ugh i hate my self for it but kill my baby so he wouldnt have 2 babies on his hip cause she "couldnt go through that"..His ex has been pregnant since September 13th or so.


    We had plans, we were going to get married, live our lives and have out own kid. and this chick isnt strong enough to have an abortion, she knows that my guy doesnt want to have a kid with her, but he wants to be apart of his sons life.


    Im so lost, he's the reason Im sitting here today, my whole reason to exitst, and this chick is trying so hard to break us apart so she doesnt have to be a single parent and not for love. Its not fair ever since we got together she has been persuading him, talking mad s**t about me...im just so lost, my heart is breaking in to a million pieces and on top of it, this is new to us, so we have no idea what to do Im 18 and my guy is turning 21 soon, I do not believe that he is the father of her child. and were so brokkeee there is no way we could afford a dna test right now, what do i do!? she doesnt want me around the baby because i threatened her, basically she called me a s***k to my boyfriend and i went through his phone and stood up for myself i told her "if you wanna talk s**t do it to my face, and if you call my fiance " babe" again ill beat the s**t out of you" so i dont know how to resolve things with her, i texted told her i would help them as much as possible, dipers, crib, baby moniter, whatever she needed i would provide or help provide, but i am not going to raise their kid, the baby already has a momma and i am not wanting to take that away from any woman (no matter how much i hate them,) and i said i was sorry i took my anger and flustration out on her she didnt deserve it, i hope she can forgive me, but if he needs to take a s**t i would like to help him if he needs help. (blah blah blah i look like a lil b***h kissing her a*s.) so she didnt text me back but texted my boyfriend "shes texting me again, she's only saying that cause she doesnt want to lose you" okay first of all of course i dont want to lose him i love him with every inch of my being, second, if it is his child, i would jump in front of a bus just to see that baby smile. My guy doesnt know what to do, the baby isnt going to be around me unless i find some sort of magic text message to send her that will make her realize what i had to do for this baby, what i am going through for her to have this baby, like i killed my baby cause she couldnt be stronge enough to have an abortion...im so heart broken....and it just seems to get worse, he wants nothing but to be with me and to take care of his son, but im not allowed to be around the baby...once again...


    can some one help me? i dont know what to say to this chick, ive tried to be nice to her, ive tried to apologize to her, and still....i dont even get a text back...


    I dont want to lose him over this, but if we cant find a resolution....im going to have no choice..and after all the heart break and loss i have already gone through...i just dont know what will become of me.....Honestly i dont want to raise their kid but she needs to make this easy on the 4 of us. My boyfriend needs to be able to raise his kid, we live together, and i want his baby to be able to spend the night with us. how can i make this happen? please someone help me.

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