How can i deal with this?

Question

My Grandma is dieing the doctors said it would not be long till she is gone. i am 22 and have never lost anyone close to me. i am a reck i dont know how to deal. i knew this day would come she is 83 and has been fighting cancer for the past 2 years. she was doing great and then she started going down fast her liver cancer has spread and she was in ICU last night and had to have 4 pints of blood. i dont want her to have to go through all this pain. it hurts me to see her this way. i know when she is gone i will brake down even more. dose anyone have any tips on how to deal with her dieing?

Answer 1

I do not intend to be cold but it sounds like she has fought the good fight and is ready to be out of pain. I have lost a lot of people and I try to focus on the fact that they will not or are not in pain anymore and how much I want them to be pain free. It sounds bad but we do not grieve for those that have passed we grieve because they left US alone. As hard as it may be you need to be thankful for her relief and not angry at your loss, and remember it is ok to feel that loss just don't let it take over.

Answer 2

IT SOUNDS LIKE U JUST HAVE TO LET UR EMOTIONS DO WHAT IT'S DOING WHICH IS TO MOURN AND PREPARE FOR HER DEATH.  THIS IS THE GREIVEING PROCESS NO ONE LIKES BUT IS NEEDFUL TO TO GO ON.  THE OTHER THING U CAN DO IS ADOPT  A GRANDMOTHER WHO IS A GOOD INFLUENCE ON U.  MAYBE LIKE A NEARBY NEIGHBOR OR SOME ONE U WORK WITH.  JUST TURN UR AFFECTIONS TOWARD THEM AND THAT CAN BE GREAT THERAPY FOR U.

Answer 3

People these days spend a great deal of energy avoiding sadness and pain.

But sadness and pain are a part of life. When your grandmother dies, you'll feel alone, depressed, and perhaps guilty that you didn't say or do enough during her lifetime.

These are emotions that require feeling. Have yourself a couple of good hard cries. Attend the funeral and all the family conventions.

But most of all, realize that although YOU miss her, SHE doesn't miss you, because she will continue to look down upon you until you're ready to join her.

God bless you and good luck!

Answer 4

If your grandmother is aware of those around her, just hold her hand and tell her how much you love her. If she asks for anything, run and get it. Just be there.

When my father-in-law died of cancer, we were all comforted by the fact that we spent the last few weeks of his life centering our lives on his needs.

I'm so sorry for your loss.