How can i get her back...or get over her..

Question

man...i dno what to do...my ex girlfriend its been over a year n i still cant get over her..all the time shes on my mind..constantly...i love her 2 death, even when i try dating other girls shes all i see and shes all i want...its got to the point were life feels worthless...foods lost its taste..things that used 2 matter dont matter...we hardly speak but when we do i always want to tell her that i love her...shes the only girl ive ever saw myself being with for the rest off my life shes the only girl i want to be with forever...the reason she left me is still unclear...its too hard for me 2 handle..we were together for a year and 3 months and we were talking about marriage even names for our kids....all of these things are still fresh memories...yeh im suppose 2b a guy whos strong but this is something i cant handle i need advice...how can i atleast get her 2 consider me a friend

Answer 1

Take it from someone who knows...you will never forget. But you can at least try to get over her. It's not healthy to remember. Your grades drop, things that should  matter don't, you lose friends you love.

My advice, is tell her how you feel. and i mean really set aside a date and get her to listen to everything. And when and if, she decides she still doesn't want what you want, just try to move on. put all your memories in a box and shove them to some dark corner. and i don't just mean your material memories. Your mind needs to be healthy too.

You will need a long, long time to get everything out of your system to a point that you actually feel like you can live a normal life. So, try to talk to your friends again and avoid anymore run ins with your love. That might mean trying to avoid HER, but that all depends on what type of person you are. you might be pretty tough.Then, (and i didn't believe this either) you get to the next level where you can actually enjoy life and not just go through the motions. Like, i said you won't forget but you WILL get to the stage where you can know that you will only ever be friends but you're o.k. Although, i advise you to forgive and at least, unlike me, try to remain mutual friends --when you're ready that is.

peace and good luck, bro.

Answer 2

i'm sorry to hear your break up man. But everything happens for a reason.

Well, you sound to me like a wussy. You're appear to be needy. The best thing you can do for both you and your girl is to move on because the more you clingin' the more she will get away from you. Remember, everything can be replaced, yes even your dearest girl and nothing is absolute. You could break up even if you've been married for 20 years so don't expect too much from a relationship.

All you really need is time to pull yourself together and move on. That's life.

And if you want to improve your relationship in the future. Sit back and analyze what you've done wrong.

When dating a girl. Don't be a wussy. What i mean is don't turn needy coz it's a big turn down for women. Do you buy gifts for her too often? Do you call her 90 times a week? Do you say what she wants to hear and do what she wants you to do? Those are wussy's common acts. And don't be negative coz most men out there are doin' those thing. You want to establish yourself as an independent man and prove that you have something else that most Men don't have such as bein' indifferent toward the relationship, don't expect too much coz that will hurt you badly if you break up. If you're be able to do so, there are bunch of women out there waiting for you. Open your mind and things will fall into place.

                               Best wishes

Answer 3

Firstly, Honest is the best policy. If she doesnt know how you feel, how is she supposed to consider you as a friend or even more.

You should ask her to meet for coffee and really get everything out in the open.

Tell her how you really feel, you never know she could feel the same way too. :o)

You will never get over her if there is no closer on the situation between you guys.

I hope things work out between you two. :o)

Answer 4

Hmm.

Why don't you call her?

Tell her you really miss her, and just wanted to keep in touch. Clarify that you just wish to see her as a friend.

Don't get all lovey-dovey on her because she might get scared of the fact that you're still not over her (it's been so long.) Make clear that you just want to keep her friendship. DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT LOVE. DON'T EVEN SAY THAT YOU DON'T KNOW WHY SHE BROKE UP WITH YOU. Or else she might not agree to keep a relationship going.

With time, you might win her over again. But it will take TIME. More than a couple of weeks, maybe months- especially since it has been so long since you broke up. Don't rush her into anything. Just be yourself. A great friend, to start it.  If you don't know why she broke up with you, there may be a chance that it was over some small, trivial thing and she might not even know why she broke up with you. Maybe it will work again. Maybe.

If she doesn't want to meet you, or if she meets you and it's still not working... keep her as a friend, unless it's too painful and isn't helping you get over her. Just drop it then. She's obviously moved on, and it's not worth any second of your precious lifetime anymore.

Ask yourself why you love her so much.

Looks? Personality? What characteristics drew you to her?

If it was things like kindness, learn to look for that in the women you meet, so you can find that match for you again.

You seem like a nice guy and I'm sure you'll find someone for you. Even if it takes a while. Try to get as far away from anything that reminds you too much of your ex. Start over again.

Keep an eye out for your soul mate, or you'll miss her by grieving over someone else.

Answer 5

Talk to her, tell her what you just told all of us here. If she doesn't like you back, then you just have to move on. You can't make her love you. If she doesn't, then tell her that you hope you guys can still be good friends, but just friends. You can't be friends hoping to win her back still. Let things go naturally and if she wants to be with you again, it will happen. Don't let it get to you so extremely. You say life feels worthless and food doesn't taste anymore. If it's that bad, and it continues to be that bad, you may need more help than anyone can give you on here. Getting over people is hard, but you need to sometimes, for yourself. Good Luck to you, hope everything goes well.