How can i get my daughter to do her homework?

Question

my daughter is 10 yrs old and we are having problems with her getting her homework done i have tryed everything i can. she wants me to just give her the answers but i will not do that. i explain it all to her and she says she understands so after a few mins i notice she's just sitting there not doing it. her bed time is at 9:30 and she has been up untill 11:30 doing her work when she gets out of school at 3:30. i make her sit there untill it's done but half of the time she dosent get it done. i get tired and she's tired. she was in a homework club but her teacher kicked her out last week because she wasnt getting her late work turned in on time so now she has twice as much work. any ideas what i can do? i turn the tv off and its quiet where she does her work at. i dunno i'm tired of arguing with her everynight i know she understands how to do it.

Answer 1

Have you tried sitting with her until she is done with it. Sounds like she is becoming a bit lazy. Does she not understand the homework? Not sure If you have but try setting up a meeting with the teacher and counselor. Maybe they can give you some more input on what to do? Also do you know who her friends are ? Maybe they are telling her homework is not Cool. I know these days now all kids get lots of homework that they are just feed up with it. It's only so much info a kid can take they do need there relaxing time too just like we want to relax right after work. Poor baby try to have a talk with her and hopefully she can open up to you and tell you why she is having problems with homework.

Answer 2

bribe her with something you know she'll like. you don't have to make it too extravagent lol if you can't afford it

it worked for my little sis

she wouldn't do her homework she would stall spending time watching tv my mom got her to do it by saying if she didn't watch tv while doing her homework every day for a month she could have a libby lu makeover and a build a bear. it actually worked, she still has a little bit of the sparkles in her hair from the makeover, and clutches her stuffed giraffe every night:)

Answer 3

maybe u could set up a reward system, say if she does her homework for a week striaght with no problems then she can go where she wants or get something special

Answer 4

I've ran into the same problem and it's no easy fix.  She's at the age these problems start.  You're doing the right things by taking away stuff she enjoys.  My daughter has to do her homework as soon as she gets home from school.  If she doesn't and we have plans to go out in the evening, she gets to go to her babysitter's and finish her homework while we are out enjoying the evening.  Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

For some reason, when she goes to the sitter's after school, she does her homework no problem.

Answer 5

REWARD HER with something really good. My son had the same problem until this year, 3rd grade.

If she can complete her homework on-time and without incident (ie.: mom pulling her hair out at the dinner table) then you will take her to a movie and ice cream with a friend or something that means a lot to her.

Once she realizes that she accomplished it for an entire week it will give her the confidence to continue on that path. Keep up the rewards for a while, but dwindle them off after a while.  

Good Luck! I know it is SO draining!

Answer 6

i would try and do things without her. like, if you have a husband, after dinner have him stay at home and you go get dairy queen for the rest of the family. your daughter wont get any because she didnt do her homework. also, i would try and do homework right after school when its still fresh in her head. if shes getting tired of doing homework, you need to put your foot down and make her do it. shes only 10 years old, and i know you too would agree homework only gets harder. i would take away her tv in her room, any computers, any gameboys or game systems. make it to where anywhere else is just as boring, so she might as well do something that will benefit her and thats her homework

Answer 7

for starters, feed her before she begins homework.  get rid of the TV and be available to assist her.  she needs a desk, pens & pencils, a comfy chair, and good lighting in a room without distractions.  bedtime needs to be consistent every nite and the ground rules must be that homework is done before anything else.  eliminate all afterschool activities and do the same thing every day.

Answer 8

Your daughter is very discouraged!   She needs some positive in put.

Let her do some of the home work like one subject as soon as she comes home from school. She may need some kind of a snack as soon as she comes in from school too.  You take coffee breaks and  probably eat something small with your coffee!!   Then tell her she can have some time off to do what she wants to, (you set a time) then do another subject.  Eat supper, and finish the rest.   Kids need time for friends, and recreation, just like we adults do.  We expect a break every two hours at work and it is the law to do so.  After each subject, take a look at it, go over it with her and give positive comments where they are deserved,

      She may even be what is called a perfectionist, and may feel very inadequate when she makes a mistake.  I had a daughter like that and she got very discouraged because she thought she wasn't good enough to do anything right.   Actually she was the smartest student in the class, but slow to get her work done because she was so thorough in thinking things through.    Today she is in collage and has a 4.0 avg.  But it took a lot of encouragement along the way.

Answer 9

i would tell her that you are not going to help her and it is her responsibility do to it and if it don't get done then she is the one that is going to be left back at the end of the year and all her friends will be going on to the next grade chances are she will get her homework done on time it might take her a week to see you are not going to make her do it then she will start doing on her own

Answer 10

Start punishing her when she doesn't get it done. If she isn't making an effort, take away TV, computer, etc. until she makes an effort. If she is trying, just keep working.

Answer 11

First, are you sure she understands how to do it. If so and she says so she's doing it to rebel against you. Sorry but it's true. From now on at 930 send her to bed anyway and then tell her if she can't do her homework like she's suppose to, then you'll hold her back for a year and see if that changes her mind when her friends are going to laugh at her.

Grounding her is perfect for the crime, also if she has allowance you can take that away.

OR, you could do an allowance thing to reward her for her homework, just until she is caught up. Tell her for every late assignment she finishes she gets $1. See if that will work. most kids her age want rewards. So then tell her if after a week if all her late homework is finished she can go see a movie of her choice. Sounds crappy I know but it will likely work and make her motivated enough to want to do it. cause while she is at the movie she can go shopping with her earned money.

Answer 12

Try making a a chart of everyday of the week. Set a time for you guys to sit down and do her homework together, be there for her. At 5 o' clock say "it homework time" (or whatever time works for your family) make sure she sits down and does all of her homework. Each night after she is done give her a star on the chart for that evening. After the week is up, give her a treat go out for ice cream or let her rent her favorite movie.  After so long she will want to do her homework so she can get that weekly treat. Trust me, it worked for me when I was little.

Answer 13

It sounds like you are a mother who actually cares about her child, which helps a lot!  This is how I deal with pretty much all misbehavior:

1.  Tell her the rule in your house is that school comes first  

      and homework is mandatory.  Ask her if she understands        

      that.  If she does, say "that means that your behavior is not

      from  being unaware of the rules."  

2.   Ask her if she understands how to do the homework.  If

      she does, say "so this isn't a knowledge issue."

3.   If it isn't an understanding issue or a knowledge issue that  

      means it is a "will" issue.  Explain the consequences of

      disobedience and follow through.

Arguing with her only makes her feel like she is in control.  Try changing the way you discipline.  If she won't cooperate have her stand in the corner for 15 minutes or something and then give her a chance to do her homework.  If it is honestly a "will" issue then consider corporal punishment.  In my experience that works wonders.  Especially because she will be reminded of the consequences as she sits to do her homework.