How can i get my daughters father be apart of her life?

Question

My daughter has not seen her father or his family scince xmas. He was seeing her right along until he got with his new girlfriend and then he would stop i would call him and ask him if he was going to take her or if he could watch her while i worked and he would tell me that he was to busy.. What else can i do?? his parents do not want anything to do with my daughter either and she is only 2

Answer 1

You can't force anything. You can be rest assured that it isn't your fault that your daughter can't see her father. You tried. I haven't seen my mother in almost 3 years now, and I'm only 15. I talked to her for the first time in about a year last month. Sometimes people just really aren't responsible enough to take care of a child. It's rough, but some people don't have their priorities straight, and what he does now will influence your daughters life in the future. Just make sure that you give your daughter lots of love and attention when times get hard, and even when it isn't hard, just help her as much as possible. I didn't get that kind of help, and it has influenced me so much, I wish I had someone to lean on. Just be there for her. Best wishes...

Answer 2

I am sure it is hard but if you force him it will just hurt the daughter because he is only gonna doing it because he has to.He will regret it later in life.

Answer 3

SO SAD...MY DAUGHTER FATHER DOESN'T CARE BOUT HER.. AND IT JUST MAKES ME SO SAD..... I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND.

BUT U CAN'T MAKE NOBODY DO WHAT THEY DON'T WANT TO DO

AND WHAT'S DA DEAL WIT HIS PARENTS??? UMMMM... DO U THINK THEY HAVE DOUBTS.. ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER....DO THEY THINK....THAT'S NOT THERE GRANDCHILD???..IF IT'S NOT THAT.......IF THEY DON'T WANT NOTHING TO DO WIT HER...THEN KEEP HER AWAY FROM THEM......THEY ARE ACTING VERY CHILDISH...... MY DAUGHTER GRANDPARENTS BE ACTING CRAZY  TOO...SO I KNOW HOW U FEEL......... TAKE CARE....

Answer 4

You are rightfully sad for your daughter, who deserves to have her father as part of her life.  Unfortunately, we cannot "make" other people do things, and we cannot change the way they feel.  He may someday regret his decisions, but that's going to be his problem.  Your focus is already in the right place, on your daughter, and you are probably strong enough to fill her life with the love she needs.  Don't waste any energy on the father or his family, and that will give you all the more to devote to your daughter.  

Answer 5

I'm sorry to say this but you cant force anyone to be a part of the childs life. I bet you have already talked to him about how you feel about this and he just don't care. You little girl dont need to be around this. He is the one that is missing out. I know it will be hard to talk to her about it when she gets older but she don't need to be hurt by him she don't need to get close to him and than he walks out on her again because everytime there is a new woman in his life. I can understand where you are coming from tho. You want her to know her father and spend time with him and you want him to love her as much as you do. but its hard to even do that when the person don't even want to be around them. I would just move on with your life. You will find someone out there that will care and love for your daughter. You don't need him around. I know you are looking out what is best for your baby and he isn't the best thing. He will hurt her in the end. Some way he will if you get them close now and he walks out on her like he has it will hurt her. Mine is 2 1/2 and i went to see her father and he didn't say hi or do anything with her and he only sees her when he wants too but i put a stop to that. because it was hurting her she didn't understand why her brother was getting hugs and she wasn't so i just stoped from him seeing both of the kids i didn't want a fight between them and everything else. I hope this help and if you need to talk i'm here just email me. i don't want to tell my whole story here

Answer 6

You can't force him to be a father. Give it up. Oh, and don't blame the girlfriend. If he was a man he would be there for his child no matter what. You picked him.

Answer 7

You can not force or make anyone do something that is not in their heart to do. You can beat yourself up trying, but don't. If he wanted to be a part of his child's life he would be there for her and nothing would stand in his way.

Answer 8

They're right. You can't make someone do something. All you can do is keep trying.

When my niece was 18 months, her father left her mum for her mum's best friend. Since then, he has not seen his daughter and well, he disappeared a few months later, stating that the girl has ruined his life.

My niece is now 5, nearly 6 and she's got a new dad, a half brother and life is good.

But then again, it seems it could be that the girlfriend has an issue with him having a daughter.

As someone who has experience is having a child's father not see the child, I can only give you this advice: no matter what, be there for your child. I'm not saying the child's father is a bad person (because I don't know him and I won't judge you or him) but whether he is there or not, at least you can be there for your little girl. At least then, she'll have one decent parent in her life.

Good luck and trust me, things wil get better :-)

Helen

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