How can i get my girlfreind to dominate me?

Question

So I am a 20 year old male who has a kinky side. In the "bdsm" world i would be considered a Submissive or maybe even a "slave". I have some fantasies that involve being tied up and teased and tortured playfully by a female, i would love for my girlfreind to be that female but she doesnt seem to have a kinky side. And if she does she doesnt want to show it. I mean she says she doesnt know what to do once she has me tied up....idk ....any help? or any ideas for her?

Answer 1

have a few drinks to take away a few inhibitions then talk about it tell her how you feel and what you would like her to do to you when your tied up, tell her about your fantasy's and what happens in them, she may be embarrassed or even sit and watch a bdsm dvd with her not too heavy to start with and point out things that you would like her to do make sure its ones with a d********x in them you can point out the outfits and say i,d love to see u in that doing these things should be enough to see if she is going to share your interests unfortunately if she dos,nt its a no no cause this kind of stuff needs 2 people to agree if she tries it unwillingly it will probably put her off for life i have been with my partner 4yrs our s*x life is great as we have a lot of variations and talk about what we want good luck

Answer 2

Be opened with her about your desires. Then maybe make a trip to the local adult toy shop and explore the different things available. You may even want to watch a video that displays what you are looking for. Then show her that the more she turns you on the better the out come is for her. Keep an opened mind and offer to try things she wants to explore as well. Make sure she gets a good start in foreplay too.

Sometimes people especially women think it is not okay to be adventurous in the bedroom.

As a married women I can say it really helps if you can keep the bedroom fun and not get into a boring routine.  

Answer 3

Why don't you try giving her suggestions at first and see if she can take it from there.

Answer 4

just tell her that you want to be her slave.. or next time you have s*x, ask her if she would tie you up and see how she reacts. good luck!

Answer 5

Talk to her about how your submissiveness, help her understand your feelings and frustrations also tell her about the level of trust that a person has to have and you have that kind of trust with her. Chicks love when guys talk about how they feel.

Lastly go get a bdsm DVD for you all to watch  as a teaching tool make sure its a "soft " one you don't want to scare her away. Then take her to an adult novelty store just to browse for "certain" items.

I am sure this will help  

Answer 6

i am all into kinky stuff but i would say for someone that hasnt YET explored that side maybe u should ask her what kind of fantasy she has if not get her a lil tipsy and she will be more open

Answer 7

Yeah, tell her what you want. Or maybe tie her up for a short time and say things to her that you would like to hear. Start out light with some handcuffs or something.  

Answer 8

why don't you try and be the dominate one and tie her up and do some things to her that in turn you want her to do for you this way she has a idea what you like surprise her one night and set the stage you can b romantic and nasty at the same time then next time tell her you want to be tied up and let her know what you want us females don't read minds speak openly about what you would like her to do to you but keep it within comfortable grounds you don't want her thinking your just another pervert hope your dreams come true !