How can i get my mom to stop smoking in the bathroom?!?!?

Question

Cigarette smoke really bothers me, i hate it and my mom stopped smoking in the house and then she started to sneak smoking in the bathroom and i always smell it from upstairs in my room. it's like she doesn't fricken care. When she took me to the hospital cause i got pleurisy i told the doctor she keeps smoking in the bathroom and it bothers me my mom asked the doctor if it was okay and he of course said no it's not. But she does it anyway!

And i always catch her smoking and i get so angry afterwards and i get anxiety cause im so pissed at her. And all she says is "then stay out of my d**n bathroom" she just doesnm't get that the smoke still sits in the air.

Shes really starting to upset me. how can i get her to stop?

Next time i go to the doctors should i just have him convince her to stop.

Answer 1

Hide her cigarettes and tell her she has a problem that's not only hurting her but, everyone around her.

Answer 2

Tell her about second hand smoke. She should already know that.

Hmm, advice. I would ask to talk to her. Be very sympathetic and try to tell her that you are worried about her. Tell her you love her very much, and make sure she understands that you care about her, that's key. Tell her you hope she can quit soon.

Why did she start smoking in the bathroom again? I thought she was out of the house smoking?

Answer 3

Cant she go outside? thats stinky and nasty!! but she does have the right to smoke, but its terrible to subject it to others. Ask her to go outside!

Answer 4

I think you should put one of those "no smoking" signs in the bathroom.

Also, let the doctor know what's going on (without your mom in the room)

This would also work with a close aunt/gramma ect...

If it doesn't work then move out. The effects of second hand smoke are deadly. See if you can stay with that aunt/gramma. It wouldn't be for ever, just long enough for your mom to get the point.

Answer 5

Perhaps ask her nicely if she could possibly smoke outside.  Don't criticise her for smoking (she will just get defensive), but approach her politely about it.

Answer 6

spray her the garden hose

Answer 7

Sit your mom down and tell her that if she wants to smoke, she needs to go outside to do it.

If you have had pleurisy, you probably have an extreme sensitivity to pollutants in the air you breathe. If she wants to shorten her life, that is her business, but she shouldn't subject you to second hand smoke in the process.

I have asthma, and am so sensitive to cigarette smoke that I can tell if someone is smoking on the road, even though we live on 22 acres. I carry a rescue inhaler, and can darned near lose consciousness if I am around cigarette smoke.

Let her know that the smoke drifts upstairs from the bathroom, when she smokes in there.  Let her know what it feels like when you feel your chest constrict, and feel like you are not getting any air in your lungs.  Let her know that you get weak and kind of sick and feel like you are going to pass out.  Tell her all your symptoms.  Tell her she is responsible for your extreme discomfort, and she should take her nasty habit outdoors!!

Good luck to you, honey.  I know how hard it can be, to be around a smoker.

EDIT:  To justbeingher- your comments are those of a dyed-in-the-wool chain-smoker, showing  absolutely NO consideration for the person asking the question, just concerned about another person's right to cut their life short with cigarettes and pollute the air of a non-smoker.  How selfish!

Answer 8

Let's see: WHOSE HOUSE IS IT? Who pays the bills?

Pleurisy is not related to her smoking. I'm sorry for your illness, but it's not your mother's fault.

Stop trying to run her life and impose your will on her with a superior attitude and she may have more respect for your desires.

It's not your place to be pissed off about "catching her" doing things in her own home. You are wrecking your own health with all your mental and emotional gymnastics. I would suggest getting your own place if you can't live and let live. She is an adult and will do as she pleases so get used to it and stop trying to change it.

If she did not care at all, she would smoke in the whole house. The proof that you don't have a say is the fact that she still does it in the bathroom. So you need to give respect to get respect. Your attitude is enough to make any parent say no and p**s them off. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

For the record, to the know it all - I don't smoke. And I respect my parents enough not to try to tell them what to do like I know it all.

Answer 9

Tell your mom straight up that her smoking is bothering you. Remind her that she is killing you with her smoking problem. I got my mom to quiet by telling her each day that she was killing herself, and I would hide her cigarrrette packets.  

Answer 10

Call social services and complain that your mother is putting your life in danger with her smoking.  Believe it or not children have been removed from homes with parents who smoke.  

Answer 11

it won't work.... nothing will work. until she wants to quit, not one thing you do or say will work.