How can i get my mom to understand that i'm a tomboy and i don't want to be girly?

Question

i'm a major tomboy and as is no one in school understands me. problem now is my own mom won't understand it. she said that i have to buy girls clothes now but i don't want to because i'm just not into that type of stuff. it bugs her that ppl think i'm a guy but it doesn't bug me at all but she's trying to get me to change even though i don't want to and only because she's annoyed by me. can anyone help me get my mom to see eye to eye with me?

Answer 1

i was just lik that but now i am 13 and have tottaly different tatse. my hair is way better now and i dress better but i still am tom boyish but not that much. just be yourself you will either get over it or you will just be a tomboy it doesnt matter.

Answer 2

sweety.. i guess your mother just wants you to be her lil angel and not some boy.. but coming from  me i am a mom of 6 daughters and 2 came out tomboys and i love them no matter what ...  they are still in that stage but you just need to know that she loves you .. no matter what you wear ... ok... good luck...

Answer 3

The problem with your mother may be that she thinks you are beautiful and wants to see you be the beauty on the outside that she sees on the inside.  Mothers love their little girls and wait to see them blossom in to young women.  

Maybe you can agree to let her pick one thing for you to wear on special occasions (her birthday, special dinners, church) and ask her to leave the rest up to you.  

You should remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God in heaven.  Remind your mom that you are the one wearing the clothes and talk to her about how you feel.  If you talk to her when she is not busy, angry or tired (and you are not busy, angry or tired) I bet you can both agree to a solution that works well.  She might even have some advice that will help you (if you will decide to take it).  Most children do not understand how much their mothers truly do love them and want the best for them.  If you have a hard time talking to your mom, maybe you can write her a letter and tell her how you feel.  Make sure you show her respect in the conversation or letter so that she will listen  to you with an open mind. :)  Good luck.  

Answer 4

You should wear the clothes you feel most comfortable in- that is what is most important. You may not have have many tom boys at your school but i have heaps at mine. Try to explain to your mum that the way you look is how you feel most comfortable. Also in the course of a life time what does it matter? If your mum won't understand that is her problem. Eventually she will have to just accept it because to be honest most people have bigger things to worry about.

Answer 5

i have the same problem. i compromised, i wear girl jeans and that's about it. half of my wardrobe is of guy stuff, half is girl stuff. she can't control which half i wear. ; )

Answer 6

Woah, I have same. Except that I wear make up and have short hair, but she doesn't like the fact that I wear baggy male shirts and jeans+converse...

Welcome to the parent vs teen war.

She will get over it with time, just keep on rebbeling.

Answer 7

It sounds to me that it isn't just your mom as you stated "no one in school understands me" and being a mom myself I think that she is seeing how other people are reacting to you.

If you are really comfortable with your style, then let your mom know why you prefer it, and do a little compromise, on most days go with your own style, but for special occasions, try to be just a little more feminine (not going to extremes with dresses or lace).

I guess the biggest thincommunicationcation - let her know what you like and why, and ask her why she is pushing the girly stuff on you.