How can i get my personality back?

Question

hi guys ,girls ,now i'll talk about my self and it the first time that i talk about my self because i don't like to talk about myself,so i'm a girl 16y.o

and i changed into a person that i don't like ,i use to be a good and very calm how never complain and love to work (house work)and i was prey the most of the time i was my mom's and dad's favorite girl and i never hear a song or even interest about it and i was the dreamy ,romantic girl ,and now i mean in these tow years i changed after my dad's accident (a killers tried to kill my dad we had to move into new houses and i was living in a big and beautiful house ,and the new houses are disgusting and i can;t stand it ),and now i'm a person that i never met and i get worst with every move into new house i don't like to clean or work i don't like to spend time with my family and i'm not my dad's and mom's favorite daughter anymore ,and i'm not preying and now i can't live my day without hear an American songs and ,and too many empty in my life that i never had it before and i don't like the person i am ,i just want back, every one say "people are able to be changed"but i changed to the worst person ever and now i need anything to get my old personality back and i want some one to tell me "people are able to back to there personality and better"is there a book or anything that can help me ,i want to get back to my innocence personality .please any help.thank you to read my story even if u couldn't answer.

Answer 1

It sounds like your dad's accident really affected you.  I'm sorry you had to go through all that.  It sounds to me like you weren't a bad person or anything, but you took life a little for granted, and were therefore unexpected to deal with such tragic events.   It happens to a lot of people.  

I know you want your old back life, but look at it like this, you still have your family, and you're still all together.  That's all you really need.  You should be grateful that nothing bad happened to your dad.  Anything can happen, but you guys are still together.  Try keeping that in mind.  You said you used to pray, but you don't it anymore.  To me it sounds like God was watching over your Dad for you since even though someone did try and kill him, he was able to escape.  You could thank God for that.  It could have ended up worse.  

Yes, you may not live in a nice house anymore, but where you live isn't important.  Being with your family, and having them there for you is what is really important.  Your parents don't have a favorite daughter.  Parents don't pick and choose.  They are probably just closer to your sister(s) since you pushed yourself away from your family.   That's all.  They definitely don't think less of you, they just aren't close to you anymore.  

I think you'll feel better if you start cherishing the fact that you are with your family.  Try spending more time with them, and try to get closer to them again.  Otherwise, you'll just push yourself farther away.  Soon, you'll be able to forget about things like where you live and realize that things like that are not what's truly important.   Just try to be there for your family, because they are also going through a rough time since they have to deal with the situation, too.  They need you just as much as you need them.  

Also, find something that will relax you and calm you down.  For me, it's piano.  I go and play piano for a bit if I'm in a mood and don't like how I'm acting.   Listening to music also helps.  You could also write in a journal, or paint, or something.

Hope that helps!

- Mikey