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How can i get over death

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my sisters boyfriend died today from leukemia i want to cry but im forcing myself not to my sis is going crazy.i already lost my cousin,uncle and a really close family friend.i never criend for any of them but i dont know how im gonna get through this i was with him last friday but he went to france to get treated i am depressed but i dont know what to do.he was one of my best friends he influenced me alot i dont know how to take this

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  1. you need to remember the happy times you had together with him. try making a scrapbook or photo album of just you two!!! that could be a start. i know how you feel, i have lost a grandmother and a very close family member. he is always going to be there for you, even if he isnt here physically he is here spiritually. you said he was your best friend, so mabey when you are having trouble making a decision or  need someone to talk to you could go to a quiet place and still talk to him!!! he can still help you through the hard times, just mabey a little bit differently. so i dont think that he would want you to stop your life for him, but i think that it would be ok to cry for a little while!!! good luck! and i really think that in a week you should try making the photo album!!! good luck! and i am sosososososo sorry!


  2. I found out I had AML (leukemia) in October of 2007.  A lot of the people I became friends when I was hospitalized are dead now.  And every day, I see more of them in the obituaries.  And I'm still going to the hospitals and helping people who just get diagnosed.  As hard as it is to say, the living are more important than the dead.

    So I think the answer is simple, time.  Miss them, love them, let them live in your heart.  Know that when they did die, you made their life just a little brighter than it would have been.  That they knew they were cared for; that they mattered.  Remember them, but live.  Live for them, but most importantly, live for yourself.  No one who loves you would want you to grieve forever.  Maybe for a few days or weeks or so, but not forever.  And certainly not to death.

  3. Sometimes in life a loss is so profound that you never really get over it, you just learn to live with it.

    You sound young and you will learn that death is just so much a part of life.  You remember the good times and precious memories that will keep them alive in your heart forever.  My Dad would say ( and I lost him 3 1/2 yrs ago) that you cannot lose anything that you did not have.

    And that if we are lucky we lose a lot in life.  (Meaning that we have been blessed with lots of family and friends and loved ones.)  Be strong, go ahead and cry, and hang in there, kiddo!  Gain strength from your faith (if that is an option) that one day you will see him in another world.  good luck.

  4. do not force yourself to not cry - we all grieve in different ways. If crying is apart of what you need to do to let out your feelings then do so.

    Time will help heal -  

  5. The point is that you will truely never get over it (it will always remain deep in your subconscious and emotional states); but, you can ease the gloomy, depression feeling by letting only time drift by; only time can let you "ease up" on the memories of the death of a close one.

  6. There's a band called Sixx:AM who did a song called Life Is Beautiful.

    I had a dog whom I've had for a really long time that died recently. i was listening to my mp3 player and I heard the song. It helped me alot, and I hpoe that it helps you too, if you like hard rock.

  7. I am very sorry to hear of your losses you have had a very hard time. How you grieve is very individual but I feel talking to your sister will help you both as you both loved your friend. Crying is a natural part of grieving but dont feel bad if you don't want to, not everyone does. As long as you give yourself oppertunities to talk and express your thoughts you will get used to the recent bereavements you have suffered. Sorry again and best wishes x

  8. Time

  9. simple

    the way to get over death

    is to accept it

    and UNDERSTAND IT

    there are no accidents

    things happen to be

    the way it is suppose to

    UNDERSTAND THAT DEATH

    IS A PART OF LIFE

    CRY BUT IT WONT BRING HIM BACK

    HE SEES YOU AND YOUR SISTER

    KEEP LIVING.....AND YOU WILL SEE.

    ..........

    .......................


  10. It's OK to cry even if you're a guy. Real men cry. It's all part of the grieving process. Your sister needs you... go be with her even if it's just to sit with her and cry or to hold her hand. Instead of mourning his death try celebrating his life. Remember the good times. I'm sorry for your loss.

  11. if u feel like u want to cry then cry no one is going to force u to move on just dont s***w up your life by being depressed and ignoring the world forever u'll get back on your feet soon try to do something that makes u happy i no im not much help i hated listening to othes advice when my mom passed away i was fine on my own those ppl just kept buggin me well only a few more months till i'm 18 almost gonna get them off my back

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