How can i get over the fact about him and this girl ?

Question

I have this problem

which i never notice this before.

Im going out with this guy named bobby for about a year and three weeks

And everything is going prefect more than prefect actually

but there is this thing.

Another girl that is.

A girl he FIRST fell inlove woth at a young age ( 9 )

his whole family knows her, shes pretty much like family ( so his said )

her name is naomi.

he told me about her ever since we been together.

and now even tho i know he loves me and he said his love for me is wayyyy stronger than hers

but he has pictures of her ( only three )

one in his wallet

one in this coffee can with other junk in it.

and one in his phone

( i delete the one in his phone )

he knew i delete it, he wasnt mad about it.

he was disappointed cuz that was his last memory of her ( which was a picture of him and her dancing on new years )

but i see these pictures even tho he said they dont mean anything

why am i feeling like they mean sooo much to him.

how can i get over it???

i need to

plus i need to cuz shes going to be in his life cuz his family invites her to every special event.

i keep telling myself to get over it and stop thinking worst of all things.

i need to stop thinking that she is his first love to the girl thats going to be in his family and thats she is pretty much like family.

tell me things to get over her.

i dont want to see her and think shes the girl that he first loved.

Answer 1

Out of respect to you even if he has these pictures these should be tucked away, no need to share them with you and the world.  Out of respect to you he shouldn't bring her name up in conversations, she doesn't matter.  This would drive the healthiest of person mad, what you feel is normal and you have the right to feel like you do.  Just tell him to put away the pictures and stop bring her up, then there will be no problems.  If this is in your face you will go bonkers.

Answer 2

Its normal to feel like that.

Why dont you talk about

it with him. so he can

reassure you again?

Reassurance always

calms me down :]

Answer 3

plz.  they are best friends.  Just like my and my best friend who is a girl.  My gf doesnt care.  I mean its not like he is cheating on you or he would have a lota pics of her.  so just remember that he loves her like a sis, not as a gf.