How can i get over this heartbreak?

Question

I was friends with a married man. At first I didn’t know that he was married but he later came to tell me. I didn’t stop seeing him because were strictly platonic. It wasn’t a big deal. My own father doesn’t want anything to do with me and my friends were away so I felt so alone. He gave me the intention that I was lacking .He made me fell loved and wanted. My mom also passed away and I am still morning over her death

However, I began to fall for him because something about him that turned me on. I know I should have stopped seeing him when I began to fall for him but I didn’t. I don’t know what I was thinking.

Were still platonic friends until we began to touch each other sexually? I ended up going down on him. We didn’t have intercourse.

Since we became physical, I tried to resume our friendship but he seems like he doesn’t want anything to do with me. He even stopped calling me. It’s very difficult for me because he meant a lot to me. I am so heartbroken and devastated. We don’t see each other anymore and the thought of not seeing him or talking to him anymore is tearing me apart. I miss him terribly.

I know I deserve it because I continued our friendship when he told me that he is married and I am no asking for any sympathy. I just want advice on how to put it behind me and move on. I feel so used.So am I going to stop missing him?

Answer 1

That, dear, is not a question any of us can answer. You'll have to deal with your problems all on your own like a big girl.

Answer 2

You can't really ask any of us to solve that hunny,

your going to have to solve it by yourself.

maybe if your so down about it go see someone professional or just talk to someone very close to you

:)

Answer 3

it sounds like you have had a tough time of it lately. In my opinion this man took advantage of you when you were very vulnerable. I don't think you saying or thinking you deserved this is being very fair to yourself because we all make mistakes and the trick is to learn from them. You will get over this though and i know it's a cliche' but time is a great healer.

If you are feeling very low seeking advice from a doctor or some councilling may help especially as you are still grieving for your mom.

good luck to you x

Answer 4

I'll ask the sun to shine away from you today so you can cry! If thats what you want! Alright! N I'll ask the clouds to bring the rain for you today so you can cry! Said If thats what you want alright!!

Answer 5

when you find out how to get over heartbreak please let me know! i am going through a very hard one right now. my heart hurts :( good luck!