How can i get rid of shyness?

Question

alright I'm a 18 year old guy. I'm extremely shy around people i don't know and around just about every girl i freeze up in classes at school. I'm not dumb. I am naturally a 80 student. but whenever asked to answer something I just blank and can't come out with the answer. So I guess what I need to know is.. how do I overcome my fear of breaking free? See in a one on one thing I'm just fine. but add anyone else.. Then it's like I'm not there. I can't speak, in fear.

Answer 1

Join a club or a team. There must be something you can do very well, like a sport, or chess or a band or church choir. Another suggestion might be community service with children. Children are very non-judgemental. They will see you as a grown-up and will respond to you. I volunteer in a nursing home. I read to them, push wheelchairs from point A to point B and take them to lunch. Many teens volunteer in church thrift shops or help clean up the beaches in my area. By connecting with people of any age, you will soon be part of a group and slowly, the shyness will diminish. People will accept you as the quiet member of the group or team. Try it, I have seen it work many times. Girls like the silent type. Anyone can say "hi" to a classmate and ask a question: "What did you think of today's lesson? What was wrong with Mr. X today?" Etc., this starts a conversation and you won't be snubbed. Don't worry about how people will view you; show interest in them.

Answer 2

Omg, im totally the same way. Hmmm...I learned to look in peoples eyes when i talk to them to show respect. For some reason that helped.  I get really shy talking to people older than me. What i do is smile and look in their eyes and just talk like its just one person.  I also try to use hand motions to make it look like im a good speaker and interested in the conversation.  It's hard at first to get used to, but it starts to work.  Thats all I can suggest.  I'm still shy, but at least i make it look a little like im not that shy to the other people, so I feel a bit better about myself, and that boosts my confidence to talk more!

I hope this helps you a bit, i know how hard it is to be shy.

Answer 3

Try going to a small group gathering with a close friend of yours to help you speak to others, or a party or any social gathering with somebody you know. I've done it many times and it has helped me out a lot. I still feel anxious of course, but at least I can loosen up easily and I end up having a good time. It takes time but you can do it.

Answer 4

I wish i could tell you something great to help you as shyness is a hard thing to have' as i had it for many years.Now i am an adult and i am as bold as they come but being thru h**l and back made me this way i guess.I would practice talking to neighbors and to friends so you;ll loosen up a bit and that will help a bit i think.Go to classes that your comfortable and get to know them' by saying hi how's it going' or wow i love your dress...Lots of luck and hang in there ..

Answer 5

hey fear is because u think ur self as a week........ be confident and brave while speak to others, think ur self as a smart person. dont look at others do ur job............

Answer 6

This is what I do when I get extremely shy: I think realistically. What I mean by that is, I tell myself the following things:

"These people are human just like me and nothing more."

"These people talk like me and act like me."

"These people aren't monsters or anything. They're human just like me."

Everyone in their moment has had fear of shyness or the fear of saying something embarrassing in front of people.

Just relay these answers in your head when you're about to step up to these girls or guys and act naturally as you would in any conversation with a relative or a close friend.

Answer 7

I used to be like that when I was younger, I think it comes as you are around people more often, sometimes you need to face your fears head on of course you'll be scared but trust me it's the best way to conquer your shyness...