How can i get through this?

Question

I was close friends with a married man until we got physical.We didn't have s*x but we just fooled around.It was a mistake and i felt guilty about it.

However he has been distancing himself from me ever since.He never called me and its been 2 weeks.

I respect his decisions for not talking to me but i have been so sad about it.I miss him terribly because i really enjoyed his company.I also missed his friendship and i have been crying. I think its for the best if we stay away from each other.

So how long do you think it will take me to stop missing him and get back on track

Answer 1

That varies but time heals all wounds...

Answer 2

You asked for it . You knew he was married. It should have never happened to begin with. So get over it!

Answer 3

You've got to make a concious effort to move on - start going out with other friends or get involved in a sport or club.  Until you find other ways to occupy your time and your mind, you'll keep thinking about him.  I applaud you for stopping this before things went too far and for staying away from him since so that you don't have the temptation.  He needs to concentrate on his marriage and you need to move on.

Answer 4

I've always believed that the best way to get over one man is to get under another one.

Answer 5

when you can find someone to do everything he was doing where is his wife in all of this how do you think she would feel if she knew this happen worst than you  

Answer 6

Hopefully it won't take long. Becuase you should have your heart open for some one who's heart is available to you

Answer 7

Time is different for everyone.  If it really keeps you feeling upset seek counseling and talk to close friends and family about your feelings.  Good luck

Answer 8

whether he was married or not, you had some feelings fo rhim and it can take a good whiel for them to go away. the best thing to do it to try and think of him being with his wife and that its for the better. also, try to find yourself someone new and that should help

Answer 9

You had no business being friends with a married man. I assume you were hanging out alone and there was just no reason for that. If I was his wife I would beat your ***. When men and women are friends it leaves a door open for something to happen. So i suggest you stop handing out with men that are married!  

Answer 10

It'll take some time.  Respect his decision and let him be.  You should have kept the boundary.  He is married.

Answer 11

To be very honest with you, it could take a lifetime.  But you have to be strong and try doing things to keep him off of your mind.  Go out with your friends, or by yourself, and try to have a good time...

Answer 12

I am wondering how long it will be until you stop asking this question because you ask it every other day!

Answer 13

You two crossed that friendship line!! Now you don't have a friend or a lover....

Answer 14

I have been there it hurts so bad which was my stupidity for getting involved with a taken man but I was married also . The best medicine for hurt is happiness get out have some fun don't be alone be with your friends and find some cute boys to flirt with but that's all just harmless flirting and you will be over it in no time.  thats what I did but about six months later he left his wife and we have been together since almost five years now. sometimes there is happy ever after

Answer 15

you probably will never get over it

you'll stay up nights thinking, what a loser i must be for being rejected by some married guy. i cant even get a married guy to F me.

your only hope is probably lesbianism.  

Answer 16

Any married man that has s*x outside of his marriage is a slug.

Answer 17

The important question is how will his WIFE and family get threw this if and when they find out..

You KNOWINGLY "fooled around" with a man who is married, and you expect us to feel bad or give you advice on how to get over your apparent "heartbreak"?

Gimmie a break.. and get over yourself! You've been crying? Uggh.. Honestly all your anguish is deserved-- A little thing I like to call KARMA. You will get over it.. whatever "it" was.

Its not like you lost him as he was NEVER yours in the first place. Yep.. too bad so sad the friendship is gone now because neither of you had the morale or self respect, and respect of others feelings to get a grip and not act like horny impulsive teenagers. Besides, it was probably (and obviously) inappropriate for you two to have this so called friendship when there was clearly an attraction between you both.

Perhaps you could ask his wife just how you should cope?

Move on and leave this and all other ATTACHED men alone. Gosh, grow yourself some dignity and respect.. or do you not believe you are worth more than picking at someone else's (THE WIFES) scraps?

Answer 18

i am a firm believer that married people should not have close friends of the opposite s*x... it will take some time, but just remember, he is doing what you would hope you future man does; staying away from temptation...

Answer 19

What?? you don't trust yourself to just be a friend.Trust me friends are more important than s*x in the long run.

Answer 20

I'm not sure, probably a few weeks.  Try talking to some other people, go out somewhere, or see someone you haven't talked to in a while.