How can i get throught this heartbreak?

Question

I was friends with a married man. At first I didn’t know that he was married but he later came to tell me. I didn’t stop seeing him because were strictly platonic. It wasn’t a big deal. My own father doesn’t want anything to do with me and my friends were away so I felt so alone. He gave me the intention that I was lacking .He made me fell loved and wanted. My mom also passed away and I am still morning over her death

However, I began to fall for him because something about him that turned me on. I know I should have stopped seeing him when I began to fall for him but I didn’t. I don’t know what I was thinking.

Were still platonic friends until we began to touch each other sexually? I ended up going down on him. We didn’t have intercourse.

Since we became physical, I tried to resume our friendship but he seems like he doesn’t want anything to do with me. He even stopped calling me. It’s very difficult for me because he meant a lot to me. I am so heartbroken and devastated. We don’t see each other anymore and the thought of not seeing him or talking to him anymore is tearing me apart. I miss him terribly.

I know I deserve it because I continued our friendship when he told me that he is married and I am no asking for any sympathy. I just want advice on how to put it behind me and move on. I feel so used.So am I going to stop missing him?

Answer 1

I am with Ruthie, in addition you should have broke it off when you discovered he was married. Also any sexual act in intercourse. All affairs are emotional first, then sexual. You need to involve yourself in some single activities in your community, you need friends, and I do not just mean male. You need to focus on finding some girlfriends who care about you as a person, before you even need to start dating again.

Answer 2

I think you should seek counseling. There's a lot here that concerns me. Your mom passed away and your dad isn't in your life, and your friends aren't around, so you went to a married man for attention. Just that right there without all of the other stuff is bad enough! You shouldn't need a mans attention to not make you feel lonely, the only person you need is you. Please do yourself a favor and get some counseling.

Answer 3

yep you might feel used right now but you knew he  was married in the first place. Think if you were married and found out your hubby did that to you! i think he did the right think to break it off entirely . Maybe he told his wife, maybe he didn't. who cares move on . you will not forget  him but you will get over him. next time sweety pick a person who isn't married to be with . You cant fall in love with someone who is already married, which I am guessing had started to happen. You will be ok you have been thru alot. i am sure you learned a few things in the process. Just be glad you didn't go all the way and are faced with having this man's baby now. it could be alot worse. I am very sorry for the loss of your Mother. i ran to another man when my current bf and I broke up  for a short time. i ended up pregnant and  got back together with him. later on we found out it was the other guys baby. we have been thru h**l the last 6 years. I married  the bf i had broken up with and we are very happy. just thank your lucky stars it turned out like it did.  

Answer 4

Grow up. How many different ways can you ask the same question. A BJ is still s*x and he cheated on his wife. He got what he wanted from you and now he is gone.