How can i get used to being alone? How can i forget and move on?

Question

I just came out of a relationship that i got so used to that it scares me to not be with him. I don't love him but his company was very important to me. I am very independent and not a bad looking person. But it was almost 2 years and like i said even though i don't love him i just cant be alone. I`m desperate. How can i forget and move on?

Answer 1

accept that fact it's over and work on rebuilding your self-esteem.  Listen to gospel music and stay around positive people.

Answer 2

If you want to get used to being alone, start by telling yourself you can, instead of that you "can't" - either way, you're right.

Next, find something to fill that void.  A hobby, a night class, a club, a sports team, a church singles group, overtime, etc.

Answer 3

You need to work on your self-esteem issues, because whether or not you think you are a good looking person there is something wrong w/ you that you fear being alone.  

Answer 4

therin lies your problem. You need to get comfortable being alone. It will be hard, but try to find things you can do by yourself that you enjoy: ride a bike or do some arts & crafts, read, etc. When you are finally comfortable being alone with yourself you will probably meet a better guy. LOVE YOURSELF! You don't need a man or any other person to realize you are great! Once you truly believe that you will be healthy enough to start a healthier relationship. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I understand everything you're feeling...but you are NOT desperate so take that word out of your vocabulary!!! The only thing that will get you through this is TIME...you can't skip it, sorry!  

After my divorce, I actually enjoyed my time alone, wrote in a journal which helped me deal with all of my feelings, and then I could see some of my progress,

I too am currently with my b/f of 19 months and I am not in love with him, but I care deeply for him, and we do have a lot of fun together.  But that's not enough, and I too am unsure about ending it because we do get along, but I am NOT scared to be without him (or anyone) but everyone gets lonely and that's when you need to get involved with your friends, family and hobbies.  You need to learn more about yourself and this is the perfect time to do it!

Answer 6

Buy an animal like a dog or cat to help with the company part.    You can be alone but after two years you need to get some therapy to help you get through this.