How can i help her without insulting her?

Question

my cousin is pregnant with baby girl #2. she is in a bad financial situation where she cant afford a stroller or carseat. her husband is in jail and she doesnt get much help from immediate family. my other cousins and aunt have all put money together to buy some baby essentials but do not want to make her feel like she is not capable of being a good mother. what can we do to help her out without making her feel bad. She is due for a c-section in about a week.

Answer 1

What a loving family you have there. You really are lucky.

She's just gonna have to swallow her pride and learn to accept the help she's giving.

I hope you also understand that helping to provide only the little things will only trap her in dependency. Right now of course she needs immediate help. what I'm really talking about is her future.

Combined is there any way you all can, perhaps, start a business where she and other members of your family can earn there keep and also grow independently. Just a thought.  

Answer 2

Every couple of weeks, bring her baby essentials.

Answer 3

i agree

Answer 4

Why not have a baby shower for her?  Invite family and friends, serve some refreshments, play a couple of games and have fun giving her some presents and much needed items.  The mother-to-be will appreciate the gifts without feeling like it's charity.

As the baby starts to grow out of clothing and such, pick up a few things here and there and just tell her you were out shopping and found a little outfit you thought would look cute on the baby.

Answer 5

The most honorable thing you can do is to ask her if there is anything you can do to help. If you think she is easily insulted, just play it safe and ask first, even if you've already bought the goods.

If you think she's going to refuse your help and things out of pride, send it to her as an anonymous gift rather than ask her.

Obviously be truthful if she asks if it came from you.

Hope this has helped.

Answer 6

My wife is pregnant and expecting in 2-3 weeks. Nothing would make her happier than people bringing gifts...you could buy her a Babys R Us gift certificate so she can buy what she needs...There is no such thing as too much help when a woman is about to have a baby.

Take Care

Answer 7

Good job. Right now she needs her family more than ever. It's good that you guys are all pitching in, keep up th egood work.