How can i help my alcoholic boyfriend?

Question

he stop drinkin 3 years ago and now he started where he left off

Answer 1

Suggest him to see some professional help at treatment centers.

Answer 2

i would attend al-non it is a meeting for people who have loved ones with addiction problems they could have vital info for you. maybe you shoudl talk with your boyfriend and remind him how much you love him and you'd hate to see him go down hill. he has worked so hard 3 years i only got five months with out smoking weed and i had to drink.

look around for support meetings and offer to go with him to his AA meetings

Answer 3

just leave him, he'll never change...

Answer 4

Yikes!!!

First let me say good luck. You can not really do much until he is willing to participate. Other than that show him that you love him, and that you can make him feel better than the alcohol can. Show him that things are much better, and much more enjoyable when you are not hung over, and not every occasion calls for alcohol.

Hope he makes the right decision for you.

Answer 5

Tell him, "If you want this to work out, go find someone (a therapist) to help you. If not, I'm leaving. I understand you stopped and have being doing good, but you cannot go back. Go find help!"

Answer 6

Not a lot you can do.  I would say don't try to do things to cause an effect upon him.  Don't, for example, threaten to leave him unless he stops drinknig to try and shock him into it.  It rarely works, doesn't last and your bluff may be called.

I would say don't be judgemental, but don't take responsibility either.  It is not your problem.  He picked it up only he will ever put it down.  Don't try to be his psychologist.  Just don't judge him.

If it doesn't suit you, leave.  Live your own life.  Be a good role model and not manipulated or enmeshed into his stuff.

Each drunk is different so I can only generalise, but don't put up with any c**p because we will take advantage as much as allowed.

Don't think you can change him.

Answer 7

The only thing you can do is help him hit bottom, (again).  Tell him it's you or the booze.  Make it so that he will lose everything including you if he doesn't get help.  If he chooses the booze, leave him, cut off all support and communication and ask his family and friends to do the same.  It's what is best for him.  Tell him you and everyone else will be there for him when he does decide to get help.  Take him to AA.  Offer to help him find a good Rehab center.  If he is addicted to alcohol and is gonna go through withdrawals, make sure he gets medical help to get through that.  There are drugs out there that make going through withdrawals a lot easier, bearable, with a shorter time period to boot.  Good luck honey, this will be hard but you will make it.  And hopefully so will he.  You will both be in my prayers tonight.

Answer 8

Sorry, you can't help him unless he wants to help himself.  If you are willing to support him then just be there when he needs you, but he has to want to do this himself and for himself.

Answer 9

You can't stop an alcoholic from drinking. Only they can make that choice. Make him choose between you and the booze, and no matter what, stick with it. If he chooses booze, leave him.

Answer 10

buy him a beer and let the man live

Answer 11

Speaking from experience you cant help him unless he really wants to quit sorry

Good luck