How can i help my daughter to feel more confident?

Question

I just got my little girls school report and it says that she is doing really well but that her lack of confidence is holding her back. She is only 6 but she is really shy with adults, apparently she is fine in the playground and has lots of friends (she was voted onto the school council by all the children but really struggles with it as she has to talk about things with the other bigger kids and adults!).

Just wondering how i can boot her self confidence. The last line of the report said "We wish you would have more faith in yourself as we all have it in you...."

I always praise her and tell her how good her work is but she is still quite negative about stuff and she hates having to go and ask teachers or other people things. Can i help her? It makes me sa sad to think of her sitting in class and worrying about stuff.

Answer 1

sometimes people are introverts... and others are more outgoing.

if you are concerned this might become an issue for her later, talk with her pediatrician and see what he recommends?

i'd also like to say that children do change (somewhat) during the course of their childhoods... so maybe your daughter will come out of her shell over the next years?

that is my best advice.

i hope everything works out.

Answer 2

try to say more encouraging words to her, reward her, sometimes it's just the little things.

Answer 3

well get her to talk to you about it and then try to fix the problem

Answer 4

It sound like you are on the right path. We always teach our kids about stranger danger and bad adults, did you ever discuss with her it's ok to talk with her teacher? She is just 6 years old, some kids are very shy at that age and she will become more confident when she matures. Just a thought.

Answer 5

She sounds like a normal 6 year old. Most are shy around adults which is not in itself a bad thing . You are doing great praising her and she will grow out of it. I think that if she is doing well with her friends that you need not worry as that is usually the hardest thing for a child to do.