How can i make her respect my family traditions?

Question

I'm a mexican american born and raised in Texas (Go Cowboys). I'm 22 years of age and i have a wife (whom i love greatly) and two beautiful boys.

My problem is that a lot of Mexican families have some rare and unique traditions that can sometimes be questionable. For example, when I felt really sick one time, my mother got an egg from the fridge and she rubbed it all over my body..(she didnt crack it on me, it was a whole egg, shell and all) and she did a few chants and then she cracked the egg open and put it in a half glass of water... and BELIEVE IT OR NOT..i felt a lot better...My parents are really spiritual and they are Christians but some of the traditions from Mexico seem odd..but they work...

now my problem is, my wife thinks these traditions are stupid and wants me to forget about them...(she is Caucasion by the way) and she doesnt want my mom to bless my little boys when they get sick..h**l, my wife says things like she doesnt like the way my mom raises kids..BUT WE SHE HAD 7 of us! and we're all healthy and living life......what can i do to have her respect my traditions... PS. thanks for your time and if you want to know more about these traditions let me know! PSS. please dont reply with insults to the these tradition..pretty please

Answer 1

u should tell ur wife that with u she also married the traditions of ur country and family and make her understand that they are a part of ur life and that everyone is different and she needs to accept that differency it gives me the idea that she thinks that ppl should be like her give her good examples of these traditions and make her understand

Answer 2

I know you have your traditions but your wife shoudl have a say so too. It should not be all done your way. That wouldn't be fair. You need to compromise. Maybe if she could accept some of them that would be helpful. Don't expect her to go along with all of them. Tell her you understand that she is not familiar with your tradiotions and altho they are harmless maybe she could tell you which ones she would be ok with and you can still practice those. Try to look at from her point of view. If you married her and she had all these "strange" beliefs, would you be willing to start living by them?

Answer 3

Well, you can't "make" her respect the traditions.  Have you tried explaining to her what the idea behind blessing etc...  is?  Many cultures include some form of mysticism.  And being with a Hispanic man myself, I also have to ask...... Did you tell her why this is important to you?  I know you men have a tendency to not fully communicate.    

Answer 4

well i think there great traditions and i think your wife should respect them,and i think you should tell her that you love her enough that if she had traditions you would respect hers,someday she may need your moms help for her or one of her boys,it helped you,n she should beleave.peace n good luck.

Answer 5

Well...I think she needs to at least show respect to those traditions. They are a part of you and your life, and therefore a part of your kids. That doesn't mean she needs to accept them and practice them. But she can maybe accept that it's important to your family. I mean it's not like it does any harm to your kids right? She can still educate them on her beliefs as well. I think kids can very well undestand that....me for example: I was raised protestant, babtized and the whole nine yards because my grandmother was very christian...but my mother always raised me to have an open view and let me "choose" my own path. I'm glad because I have a very healthy view of the world now. You can show kids many directions and your faith and common sense will make them choose the right thing.

Answer 6

Take her to a trip to Mexico and let her meet some wise people there. Could be that she understands. I suspect that you also should make an effort to understand her. She comes from a ex soviet country where all these kind of traditions were banned.

Answer 7

You had "Ojo" as a little kid. Haha don't we all. Just tell your wife that it's a tradition and if she didn't like it why did she marry you? Sounds mean and all but I mean that's something you can't change about a person is what they were raised into.

PS. GO COWBOYS!!

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