How can i make my guy give me more importance?

Question

i do all the making ups in our relationship.i do it out of love,but hez taking me for granted.i want it to be mutual without being rude or indifferent like him.any suggestions how?

Answer 1

Habits of taking others for granted, or abusiveness grow stronger over time. If this relationship is important for you, you might perhaps set ground rules of mutual respect right at the start. He needs to realize that it needs two to make a relationship work.

You might also walk away for a while.  He’ll behave better to get you back - for sometime any way. Or if the spat is not your fault, don’t rush to make up, so he gets the message. Most importantly, you might be a little more assertive and firm (rather than fond and indulgent as you seem to be now!) in your manner generally, so he learns to take you seriously. Yes, if you want him to change, you need to change too.

Answer 2

1. You can't change any one. No matter how much you want them to be different. you will spend your entire life trying to make them be something that you want. Knowing each day that nothing will really ever change. Get out while you are still young and be with someone that does the things that you want. Without asking and telling them everyday.

If you continue to do what you are doing. You will be 50 years old and wishing that you stopped long ago while you were still young enough to be happy and try it with someone new.

Answer 3

Find a new boyfriend. I can't be more specific than that. Maybe an American Indian in the bushes with bow and arrow drawn. Hmmmmm? A eunich drop-out in need of a girlfriend. A 45 year old Bangledeshy short order cook working in Chennai in May. Girl, I'm going to quit doing all your thinking for you!!! Just find another boyfriend and have a long happy marriage instead of this man who is going to take it to his wifey's butt.

Answer 4

confront him with that nicely, and then depending your response you will know where you stand

you cant forse someone to change, only ask them

Answer 5

We all have "FREE WILL" You can not make anyone do something they do not want to do... Dump him you do not need a man to give you importance..