How can i make my kids listen??

Question

hi ive got two little boys aged 5 and 3 they are right terrors they dont listen to a single word i say and totally trash our home i feel like im constantly ripping my hair out can anyone make any suggestions please

Answer 1

wow, i'm so glad that i'm not the only mum with this problem!

A star for you!

Answer 2

Time for them to take trips over mom's knee! Let them know in clear language that this is what is going to happen the next time either one is acting up, and then go ahead and do it.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

your the parent. Set rules and boundries. Tell them there will be consiqences for bad behavior. And stick with it. Thats the mistke most parents make in parenting. They dont inforce the rules. Time out and taking their favorite things away works for me. And i dont take stuff away for the day I take things away for weeks. And dont yell at them. I think that only makes it worse. I think if your constnatly yelling at them they become immune to it and they dont hear you when you talk. get eye level with them and tell them in a firm but loving voice that their behavior is not acceptable and your not going to stand for it. have them tell you why they are in trouble. to me theat shows that they are aware of what they are doing and that they do understand right from wrong. After that explain that if they continue with that behavior that they will be Punished. And enforce it. And if they make a mess then make them clean it up. Hope I helped some. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

well 1st try not to fulfill all their silly wishes that will make them quiet..and still if they don't listen hammer them  

Answer 5

You need to calm down and not yell or hurt them physically

because that never works, it only makes them dislike you and defy you even more. It's all about compromise, if you give a dog a treat when your trying to train him to sit at your command it will listen to you.

That's the best advice that many parents choose to ignore.

Answer 6

Do you listen to them?  Think about it.

Answer 7

Put your foot down! d**n, what would you do if these kids were friends of yours? You would give them a peice of your mind and demand that they respect you. These little kids should be treated the same way. You need to be consistant, so if they trash some magazines you have stacked, tell them no and punish them for it every time. Not just once in a while, because they'll keep doing it to wear you down because they know they can. When they do something wrong that is minor, you tell them no. If they don't listen, then you give them a very firm I-mean-business, finger-pointing, "If you don't listen to me you are going to be punished." If they do it again, then you plop them down in time out. Make a corner of the room their time out spot and don't let them out for atleast 10 minutes. If they're fussing until then, you wait until they've calmed down.

Now, if they do something major, like run away from you in a store or hit somebody, you really need to show them who's boss. My father-in-law has this trick he used. You draw a cirle on a peice of paper and make the trouble maker hold it up with their nose to the wall. Then move it up a couple of inches to where they're standing on their tippy-toes. You give them a designated about of time that they have to do this,... 3 minutes or so depending. If they move, you spank them then put them right back on the wall to hold up their circle. This seems like torchure, but it WORKS. My FIL's girlfriend's daughter would never listen to anybody, but when she got that circle she straightened right up.

You also need to speak with your children about what they are doing. Talking does alot of good even for little ones, but just don't let it all me talk or they'll walk all over you. Be firm. My son is 10 months old but he knows not to scream in public, hit people, or pull on stuff when I tell him not to. Best wishes.

Answer 8

i raised 6 kids...you need to make them listen now because once they get older they surely won't....they have learned that they can get away with this...sit them down in different locations and talk to them....do the time outs and take things away...trust me they will push you...sta nd your ground...do what you say. my kids called me once...they were 16 each..twins...they were going to college instead of high school and driving all over...told them to knock it off...they continued...i threatened to cut up their drivers liscense and i did...hang in there...once when my daughter was 5 i stood outside a store and said now don't touch anything...she said why...you do...

Answer 9

ask them why they dont listen, and then take away all of their privileges. like tv, games, dessert, soda, sports, stuff like that. they dont like it u will tell them its because they dont listen. or you can also go to a therapy class.