How can i make my relationship better with my grandparents?

Question

My mum died when i was 4 and i have never really had a relationship with my dad but he has now died too. im 24 and 16 weeks pregnant, i am moving out in 5 months anyway but im living with my nan and grandad. They are olsd and set in thier ways but we always argue. My nan does not ever talk to me about problems even when i have tried to confront her hundreds of times, including letters and talking to other members of the fam. she always has something bad to say about me. i live in my room and dont really go down stairs as when i do we just argue or its a really alkward silance. i am angry that she bought me up. i understand why she did but i have 5 auntiesa that all asked to take me on as a child but she never wanted the help , i have been the 1 that has sufferd as a result of the age gap. im greatfull for them both and they have done so much for me but there is so much im angry about which is meant to be teenage stuff but its not going away. she never gave me pics or my mum and never talked about her, she wouldnt tell me where she was cremated and i had to find out for myself. i dont want to carry this on when i move out but i dont no how to sort it out.

Answer 1

talk  to  someone

Answer 2

All I say is pray about it

Answer 3

You argue with your grandparents?

Well there's the rub!

Can I ask you why?  Over some priveledges that you seem to have taken for yourself anyway.  

Now they are supporting you while you're pregnant too.

AND YOU DARE TO BE ANGRY???

Your anger proves that you are a  very INGRATEFUL person.  I would guess that you are not very easy to get along with.  Why would your grandparents want to be social with you?  You are unpleasant, and you don't have the skill of biting your tongue, you just lash out.  Words hurt like a fist.

Your grands have given up a lot for you, and your angry?

You need  a mental health clinic, and hope to become a more humble and grateful soul before its too late.

Get a clue:

Your grandparents can still be a wonderful help and resource for you and your baby for many years to come.

OR you can wallow in your misplaced anger and allienate them all together, and go it alone.  Not wise.

YOU CAN MAKE  YOUR RELAITONSHP WITH YOUR GRANDS BETTER

if you show some grattitude, learn how to say thank you, let them know you really appreciate all they've sacrificed for you over the years, come out of your room and be social in a very nice way...

if they say something that makes you want to snap, DON'T !!!...only yell when there is a fire.

Let the rest go.

Do more than your share of the chores, and give Granny and Granpa a break.  They're old and tired, and caring for you IS extra work, and extra expense.

Get a job and donate some of your income to the household needs.

Fix Sunday dinner of foods they like.

Quit being so self-centered.  Spend some time and thought on what would make THEM happy, and do what you can toward that end.

I'm not sure you'll like my solution.  If you don't do anything positive to make your relationship better with them, you're going to lose so much it makes my head spin...but

it's your decision.  Be wise or be alone.

^j^

Answer 4

sorry to hear about loosing both of your parents. i am 24 years also, i lost my dad when i was 6,sorry to hear about the not good relationship with grandparents.you already tried to make the relationship work out, now its your grandparents turn to work it out especially that they are future great grandparents to be. i really hope they will work on their relationship if not then maybe they deserve you to cut them off partially from your luck  

congrats on the baby hope you make a good mum