How can i make people stop treating me this way??? ?

Question

im so tired of peopl treating me like im some little kid, im 17 years old and im a senior now. I dont understand why they do me like this though, out of the rest of my family they always called me the "good girl" becuase i always made good grades or whatever. The other day at school (im new there ) i was walking to class with this girl and these boys were walking past aand she was all like "oooh girl they lookin at you, you gone have you a boyfriend here" really loud,. I mean its like everytime someone likes me everyone makes a big deal out it or have something to say. I know i have always been quiet ans shy but i have matured more but i wish people would trat me my age including my daddy, also people say i look really young for my age. Then theres this boy i talk to on the phone who says he cant talk to me the way he can to other girls (about s*x and stuff) without feeling awkwarrd i dont wann make boys feel awkwaard or nuthin but how can i change my image a little bit.

Answer 1

A good start would be to stop calling your father daddy.  The way you talk provides a strong impression to people about your maturity.  It's pretty hard to see your daughter as an adult if she still call you daddy.

Answer 2

For one you can stop having a temper tantrum when you feel people are treating you like a kid because people will only treat you the way you act. I can sense a lot of anger in this issue that will only be resolved when you let it go.

Second, if you want your father to treat you as a (god forbid) responsible 17 year old, then act like one. Get a job, start looking into which college you should enroll in or what your major should be upon graduating, open up your own checking/savings account, get a starter credit card and educate yourself on the privileges and responsibilities of having a good credit score; do the things that adults do when they want to be seen as an adult. Pay for your own car for example.

Third, you can stop worrying about what boy likes you, or doesn't like you and what others have to say about. I really don't get the point in you getting mad at your friend for making the comment she did. At that age, I personally would have taken it as complement vs. getting mad. Being upset over something like that shows a serious lack of maturity on your behalf. Who gives a d@m if any one heard her comment; they can't get with you unless you give them a chance too. And who gives a flying pig if some guy doesn't feel comfortable talking about s*x with you over the phone. To tell you the truth, s*x or anything involving it shouldn't be something that a 17 year old concerns themselves with. And if a young man feels awkward when talking "dirty" to you, then you should see that as a good sign because that means he respects you as a person. Not many young men would feel this way (but then again, you're still too young mentally to understand this theory).

You can also, improve your grades in school (try and make A - B honor roll), if you're not involved in any after school activities then do so, any sports, volunteer work; things that will benefit you to either create a resume or gain entry into an institute of higher learning. If you want to be viewed as being "mature" or responsible, you're going to have to start acting as such.

Right now it just seems to me like you're ready and willing to "blow up" over anything at any body (which again, is a sure fire sign of a serious lack of maturity). You've got a long way to go my friend, but as you travel your journey too adult hood, you'll understand what I'm talking about. Welcome to the real world (it’s not like that $h!t you see on MTV).

Answer 3

getting over your shyness i guess

but dont just change your image for others to accept you better, do it for yourself

Answer 4

Do not change, you are quite young !