How can i make this right?

Question

my best friend libby and i like the same guy. (we went out before, and i like him again. we're pretty good friends.) i told her i liked him again, and she told me she liked him too. okay, no big deal. we both decided we'd just cross that bridge when we get to it, as far as going out with him. the other day, she told another of my best friends, kaity, that she likes someone new, and that i like him too. no big deal, but kaity blew it way out of proportion. libb and i both agreed not to tell anyone who it is that we like, but it was ok to tell that we like someone. now kaity is mad at both libb and i, and thats all she can talk about. ("who do you like?") when i try to explain to her that we agreed not to tell anyone, her response is, "i'm not just anyone. i'm your best friend."

are libby and i being unreasonable, or i kaity? how can i fix this?

i also, honestly don't want to tell her who we like. she would be extremely rude about it. trust me.

Answer 1

Kaity probably feels left out. Put yourself in her shoes, she must feel like the two of you are pushing her away. If you really cant tell her, then at least explain to her why you cant. You and Libb should sit down and try to explain it to her before she starts drama. Also, it would be smart if NEITHER of you dated this guy while you both like him because it will mess up your friendship. No guy is worth losing a best-friend over.  

Answer 2

Kaity is wrong to ask you to break a promise.  It doesn't matter that she is your best friend.  To try to make things right with her, maybe tell her that one of your strong points as a friend is people can tell you confidential things and know that you will keep them confidential.  So just like you'd never tell anyone something Kaity told you in confidence, she should please respect that you are keeping a promise made to another friend, and don't take it personally.