How can i not get angry at people who percieve me as white when iam white hispanic ?

Question

i get very annoyed about this and want to lose it with people.

i will fight to the death to defend what iam and not be mis perceived.

to say iam just white is implying iam of white celtic or anglo saxon origin and iam not .

ive lived in england all my life but im from spanish and french heritage and a bit further back argentina.

im white hispanic.

i have an olive complexion with blue eyes.

i hate it when people mispercieve my heritage or nationality or ethnic origin.

in the past to , because i have an olive , tanned complexion - ive been percieved as mixed ethnicities in the summer time , which also annoys me .

people have said do i have asian or any mixed ethnicity heritage - or others have said i look just white .

iam none of those iam white hispanic

http://img74.imageshack.us/my.php?image=200fff8080247826wa6.jpg

above is an image of me recentley.

how do i not become enraged at others mis perceptions ?

i also dont see myself as english no matter what anyone says because none of my heritage is english iam the son of non english immigrants and parentage.

when people mispercieve as english or just white it make me want to rip the eyeballs out.

i know the anger is wrong but how can i deal with it - feel so passionate about this

how can i handle those who mis perceive me ?

im asking this consistantly because im getting idiotic answers

Answer 1

I have the same problem.  Light skin red curly hair and Im Hispanic and I live in a latin community.  I can laugh about it now but when your younger its a pain in the butt to have to explain to people what you are.   I make this lightness work for me now.  If some one comes to my door to sell something and they dont speak English I tell I dont understand them.  Also I dont pay attention to silly people who have too much time on there hands to stare at people to figure out what they are.  Next time someone ask what are you tell them a human being.  See where the conversation goes from there.  Good Luck    

Answer 2

you remind me so much of a guy named Hunt...he is very much like you with his looks also, he just ignores people. and so should you

Answer 3

I have Shoshone indian in me. People think I'm Norwegian. I can't really tell from your photo, but I personally would ask.

I do think you have beautiful eyes!

Answer 4

Wow, firstly you're English!  If you were born in that country and lived there your whole life that's what you are.  Second, you say that you're of Spanish and French heritage yet you only acknowledge the Spanish part?  Way to go picking and choosing what suits you best (what you don't like the French part?).  How do you expect people who know little about you to "pick" the way you do in choosing to describe yourself.  You have no right to get pissed at someone for messing that up.  Get over yourself.  Americans also come from mixed heritage background, but most people just consider them American.

Answer 5

That's interesting, most people DON'T want their heritage or cultural background to be the first thing people judge them on, especially if they've faced any real discrimination in their lives. It seems to be the one thing you care about most.

A lot of your identity and self-image are wrapped up in your unique heritage, and I've met many people with your attitude. 'I'm not just white, I'm more special than that. I'm not just English, I'm from a very unique family." Your stance on this issue devalues anglo-saxons and your fellow countrymen. The fact that you feel you have to "defend" yourself against society's misperceptions indicates to me that you feel marginalized and discriminated against, so why would you insist on being singled out from the rest of society? You probably take things way too personally also. Maybe you just want the attention. Maybe you should identify and feel pride for your other unique qualities, like your passionate nature.

You can't blame strangers for not knowing your family history. Most people don't know you from Jack and could care less what color your skin or eyes are. Consider your unique heritage a special quality of yours that only friends and family have the opportunity to know about you. Or you can walk with this written on your back and forehead: "I am white hispanic with French and Argentinian heritage. I am from England but do not consider myself English. Don't talk to me unless you plan to adequately acknowledge those facts in terms of which I approve. I am solitary woodland fox."

Good luck with that.

Answer 6

Ok I can see why you'd get mad about people calling you white but you think your not English ?? Well go to another country then ! Some of my family are immigrants but I consider myself to be English I was born here and lived here all my life therefore I am English and so do they but that doesn't mean we're ashamed of where we come from.

Answer 7

It's not a great picture, but I would probably guess you were an Anglo-Saxon too. Sorry.

England has been a melting pot of people from throughout Europe for 2000 years- Italian Romans, German Angles and Saxons, French Normans and Hugenots, and so forth. There is probably not of Hispanic heritage in Britain, so that is not what people are automatically going to assume when they see you. The blue eyes especially.

I think it's great that you are proud of your heritage, but don't be so angry because people can't guess correctly- it's not that obvious in your case.

How do you deal with it? Calmly inform people your backgroud, if the subject comes up. Don't be angry just because people simply assume you are the common English ethnic heritage. There is no insult intended.

Answer 8

Hey it's not bad to be proud of your heritage, that's good.

When people ask, it may be because they are curious.  Have you ever said a person was black?  Well, what does that mean?  Most people with african heritage, are more brown then black.  There are ways to let people know who you are without taking it the wrong way. I am a mix of many races, but my mom is English. True I look that part, because I am light complected, but I am also Cherokee Native American.  You can't really tell I am Cherokee, but I am proud of that part of my heritage.  I always tell people I am English, and Cherokee.  I am proud of both.  I always ask a person about their fore-fathers.  It's interesting to see how a person got where they are.  I hope no one would get mad at me because I ask :( I only ask because it's how you get to know a person.  That's how I build relationships with someone.  I live near Houston, a very cultural diversified community.  To assume just because a person had dark skin, or light skin makes them something exact, would really be a travesty.  Asking, is only natural.  Try not to take it personally.  Be proud of your heritage, show it off, give examples, tell stories about how you became who you are.  Obviously you are a very passionate person, use this to your best interest.  Let others fall in love with who you are, and what makes you special :)

Answer 9

Well, you look white!  You don't have dark or even olive skin in your pic and your eyes are blue.  You need to realize that the only way people have any clue what your nationality is, is by how you look or your language.  It is not their fault.

I think you are mad that you don't look hispanic and I think you are taking all the anger out on others!!  That is not right!!  Look w/in yourself and see what is going on.

I am white, totally completely anglo-saxon (that I know of) and people always think I am Mexican.  I have slightly darker skin than most white people and dark hair and eyes.  If they don't think I am Mexican they think I am Italian.  I have even been called racial slurs.  People constantly walk up to me and speak spanish.  I just don't care....