How can i overcome being nervous all the time?

Question

ever since i was young i have always been nervous but now that im 17 going 18 in 2 months i am even more nervous now this nervs doesnt let me do anything i really want to do....then i end up beating my self up (not physical) later for not doing it like i regret it so bad man, ooohh and it gets even worse when im around the women and i really hate it.....is there something i can do about this? any classes or sumthing like that would work.thanks

Answer 1

just go for it regardless of your nervousness. Opportunity doesn't come often. Do your best for your life,some people doesn't live long enough like HIV people they always do things best in their everyday life. For you my friend,you have all the time that you ever wish for.

Answer 2

just stop thinking and caring about what other people think about you, think you are the best, maybe if your happy with your appearance that could boost confidence.  

Answer 3

OK, this is a cycle you can get out of. You need to say to yourself 'what is the worst thing that can happen if i do this?". Also, you should focus on how good you will feel when you have done something in spite of your nerves. If your nerves get the better of you and you end up not doing something that you wanted to do just forget about it. Don't beat yourself up, you're human and most people go through this. Just do it next time. I'm not sure if there are classes- but talking to a close friend/family member may help. Don't feel bad, you're fine and very young! It will all get easier as you get older.  

Answer 4

Everyone is like you, more or less.

I am watching my behavior all the time and I studied a little, and found some things.

Amygdala in the brain is responsible with "fight or flight" attitude. This is the root for all the stress and fears in the brain.

Hormones are generated and ur body gets prepared for fight or flight. This is available at the exam, or when u see any danger around etc. Same pattern.

The solution for this is remaining calm and practice some methods to calm down.

The best method I know is to focus on ur breathing. Forget inhaling air, focus and insist on exhaling.

I do it like this:

I exhale for 8 seconds.

Then I hold my breath for 8 seconds.

Then I don't care how many seconds I'm inhaling. I dont care about inhaling. This is body's interest, not mine.

Then I hold my breath for 8 seconds again.

And so on.

You should try with a number of seconds u like.

And of course there are many methods of remaining calm.

In this way you bring a balance in ur brain.

But if you slip into nervousness, is better to write down ur fears, or make some exercises or beat a pillow until u calm down. The goal is to manifest ur nervousness to get into a calmer state and start from there.

If your are already nervous, first manifest ur nervousness. Vigourously. The best is to be alone when u do it. And if you can shout somehow somewhere, that helps a lot. (I heard shouting under water is perfect for neighbors:D...I will try it next time)

Now, this is just the brain part.

You and every stressed person (me included) should understand what is the brain.

The brain is a mechanism, a beautiful one, that strives to attain objectives, goals.

And only a conscious being can overwrite the goals and objectives of your brain. (your parents were the first ones to write your primary objectives when u were little).

But after some 10 years of age, a child begins to be the master of his brain. Now someone else can influence him, but not overtaking his brain.

SO, even if you like it or not, after the age of 10, you were responsibile more and more for the choice of your objectives. And after 17, you are almost 100% responsible for your objectives.

Believe it or not, we are stressed and fearful because this is one of the objectives the brain is attaining day after day.

Try to remeber from your childhood. Analyze the persons around you. See what patterns are there. Fearful people? Unhappy people? nervous people?

A child takes for granted what he sees at his parents. U get used to what u see. Then, from a lack of good examples, you take those behaviors as "normal", and then you start to practice them.

But after all, you really dont have to investigate anything. Everything will become clear in time.

What's important is that you imagine what you would like to become. To creat a new objective. A new goal. Imagine. Take a pen and a paper, and imagine yourself. And don't limit yourself.

After you're done, your brain immediately will start to analyze. Of course, old objectives are still important for it. If I was the brain, I would do the same.

So you have to tell your brain everyday: "hey, I wrote I want to be calm, why am I nervous then? To be nervous is a mistake, it's the old objective. The new objective is to be calm".

Everyday, with every experience, analyze your state. Just by being aware of your new objective and present state, you rewrite your brain.

It takes 21 days for the brain to change the strategy, when a new objective is being pushed in by yourself.

What's important is to keep your brain focused on the new objective.

This is what am I doing right now:P. It has been a month, and I see many improvements.

The beautiful part is that, like every learning process, in the beginning is a little hard, but after that, the brain takes over and does everything without annoying you at every step, like riding a bike. Your brain will know what to do for you to remain calm.

You will be amazed actually:D:P:))))

Hope this helps:P

Answer 5

well I'm not exactly sure if there are any classes but i can tell you this. just stop being nervous i know its hard for you but you need to get out of your comfort zone if you don't, you'll just be nervous for the rest of your life. i had a somewhat problem like yours how i was always nervous on how i looked and i would cover my self with clothes now im not the hottest nor skinniest person in my school but once i got out of my comfort zone i felt a lot better and a lot cooler. (it was always hot wearing my jackets during summer) and just be yourself and get out there hopefully this helped a bit