How can i possibly ever thank him for his kindness?

Question

i fell into a rut. summary of my life: instutionalized for trying to kill myself, having a miscarriage at 16, giving a son up for adoption at THIRTEEN, having my mom overdose on heroin when i was 11, and having my dad shoot himself in the head when i was 2.

after i got out of the institution i got a job, turned my life around. then i had a stupid one night stand with this random guy and BAM i was pregnant. considering my past pregnancies, i wanted to keep it. daddy didnt tink so. he tried to stab me, i got a restraining order but he didnt listen and tride to kill me AGAIN so i got him arrested. he's in jail now.

well, my grandma, who had been raising me since my mom went on a bender and crashed her car into a house (no one was home luckily) and lost custody of me, grandma died a year before all this. so i had nowhere to go and i was scared. but then i remembered.

i'd had this childhood bestfriend, jakob, he was so nice to me. even when i was 13 and everyone laughed at me beccause i was pregnant he was still my friend. and when i was 16 and got myself pregnant purposely he was my friend. the last time i saw him was when i was leaving for the institution. he was sitting on my bed and he said:

"celest, why didn't you tell me you were like this?"

i said, "I couldn't, you don't udnerstand."

he said "celest i'm your best friend. i'd always understand. you can always lean on me."

i smiled and he said "really. if in 20 years you need help, i'll do it in a heartbeat."

so i went to go see him. mind you i was 8 1/2 mos pregnant when i finally tracked him down. he's a hotshot doctor and i was this broke, pregnant girl with enough emotional baggage for the country of azerbaijan and when he saw me he gave me a hug and started to cry. he said he always wanted to see me again. and so he let me stay with him, in his guest room. and then when i had my beautiful baby girl he suprised me with buying a bassinet and all sorts of baby things. and he gave 200 parent magazines he'd gotten from friends, the hospital and stuff.

so now i'm still staying with him seeing as the baby is 2 weeks old and i just don't know if i can ever repay his kindness. he has been so good to me and i love him forever for it.

what can i do to ever possibly thank him?

Answer 1

Don't worry about paying him back now.  You'll do that later when you're in a better position.

His reason for doing all this nice stuff might be because he has feelings for you.  If this turns out to be true, be careful with his feelings; it sounds like you only think of him as a friend.  Do your best to avoid giving him the impression that there might be a romantic future between the two of you.

Answer 2

WOW!!! you have been through it all just about. god put people in your life for a reason. this man is truly heaven sent.get on your knees every night and praise god for your guardian angel. I think the best way to repay him is to get your life in order for your child(congrats to you). get in school,get a job and better yourself for you mostly and your child because he really needs all the love and support(emotionally & financially). you are are truly blessed!

Answer 3

How about saying to him..."You know I can't possibly thank you enough for all you've done for me.  Your friendship and support is more than I could ever expect.  I want to show you how much I appreciate you believing in me by starting to really believe in myself.  I'd like to go to school and learn a trade (or get a degree or whatever you want to do to better yourself).  Go on to say that you don't expect or want him to fund your efforts but that his guidance as you navigate these new waters would be appreciated.  Say that you look to him as someone who has a good head on their shoulders and that you want to believe in yourself as much as he has.  Tell him that you appreciate his kindness and you want to learn to be kind to yourself and others too.  Say something like, 'I want to one day be in a position to give someone a hand up too.  And if there is ever, and I mean ever anything that I can do for you, please let me know.  I want to be there for you like you have for me."  ... and then follow through.  Go to a school/learn a trade.  Better yourself.  Show him that his belief in you helped you believe in yourself.

The way to repay him is to prove him right in his belief in you.

Answer 4

Well you shouldnt stay with him for too long and buy him a card or something. It isnt much to repay him but he Will one day need your help and you will be there for him.

Answer 5

Sorry, but your story doesn't add up; you contradict yourself all over the place. What you present as factual-- there's no way "Jakob" could possibly be a "hotshot doctor"  at the age you describe him to be.

There are too many holes in the story.

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is probably to keep going on a good path and pick yourself up on your own two feet and give a great life to your child.  He obviously wants the best for you so the best way to thank him is to give him exactly that.  Keep improving yourself and don't fall back into depression or anything like that.  Give a great a life to your baby and stay healthy. Perhaps one day he will need your help and he will know that you will be able to help him.  Most likely you probably have help him in some way, but you just don't know.