How can i prepare for the birth of my triplets (the news of which has totally freaked me out)?

Question

This is my first (and possibly now last as we only planned on 2 kids) pregnancy and i found out at my scan on Thursday that i am going to be having triplets. I'm totally freaked out by this, i mean 3 babies!!! I was already scared of just 1 in case im hopeless and don't know what to do, but 3!! Notonly this but my partner is in the army and is likely not to be here at the birth and for a few months afterwards! I have lots of family though and his family are lovely too, but it's not quite the same.

Do you have triplets or even twins? Is it much much harder than just one? Hey at least i wont have to pick between names i am stuck on!!

Don't get me wrong, im looking forward to them being here, im just terrified that i'll lose one or be a terrible mother.

Answer 1

I have twin sisters who are 10 years younger than me. My mum was very lucky to have older kids who could help when they were born, but it was still hard work. I'd recommend contacting TAMBA (Twins And Multiple Births Association), assuming you are in the UK, as you'll meet others in the same position and they'll be able to give you loads of help and advice.

You'd be surprised how mothering comes naturally - once your babies are here, you will do the best you can for them and no-one can ask for more. Don't worry about being a 'terrible mother', just the fact that you're concerned indicates to me that you'll be anything but.

Best of luck, you'll get through it and have 3 wonderful kids in the end - that's just more to love!

Answer 2

i am a triplet myself, my mum always said that we wernt that hard to cope with, although night time feeding was quite a strain and may be for as you will be doing it on your own for a while? but im sure you will be fine and cope, its good you will have family helping out, also congratulations = ]  

Answer 3

just make sure u have 3 of everything. cot, clothes, car seats....

And buy bulk nappies.

Answer 4

First of all, CONGRATS! How exciting! First, you will more than likely have a scheduled csection. I have had 2 csections myself, and there not as bad as you hear people talk about it.

Also, If this is your first pregnancy, you wont know what life is like with just one baby or 2. Having 3 babies will seem "normal" to you and it wont be as much as an adjustment if you had one baby and know what its like to just take care of one. My advice, take all the help you can get! And hopefully your husband will be able to make it for the birth and experience that with you. God Bless! And Congrats again!

Answer 5

Blimey, thats a corker, you dont say if you are living in army housing or not, which would make a difference, you can get help from the local social services for multiple births, sometimes they will send round a home help or nursery nurse for the first few months, ask your doctor, or call the council offices to see if you are eligable, plus the Army should be told they may be able to help with compassionate leave and so on, and try not to wory too much, I'm sure you will be a good mother, even tho you are bieng thrown in at the deep end!

Answer 6

You will probably have a scheduled C-section.

Answer 7

First of all, congratulations!! Three babies!  That's wonderful.

Yes it will be a handful, but life only throws at you what you can handle.  You will need lots of help from family and friends.  Don't be afraid to ask for help, and always accept it when people offer.  

The good thing is, they'll be out of diapers at the same time.  They'll all eat solids at the same time.  They'll all go to school at the same time, so you'll have some time for yourself.

And they'll keep each other busy, and have one another for company.

Have an easy labour, and three beautiful healthy babies.  You'll all be just fine.  Trust your self.  You obviously care enough to ask this question.  You'll be a great mommy.  :)

Answer 8

As you don't have any children now, you won't know any different. Triplets will be the only way you know and you will learn to cope.