How can i prevent my mother in law from dressing like a s**t on my wedding day????

Question

My soon to be mother in law is 58yrs old, she dresses like a s**t and she's fat. She acts like she's 16 and loves to be the center of attention. What should i do?

Answer 1

why do you care what she wears? You aren't wearing it, SHE IS! If she feels comfortable then let her. For the pictures get her to get something that covers her up, like a wrap that she can put on just for the pictures.

And you sound really mean & immature, "she dresses like a s**t & she's fat" THAT IS HORRIBLE. People are fat, deal with it.

Good luck in your future relationship with her.

Answer 2

Lol....my cousin's MIL did just that on her wedding day, despite all her efforts to stop her.

Skin tight low cut/high cut dress from Frederick's of Hollywood. b***s hanging out of dress, complete with rose tattoo.

Spent the entire reception drunk and hitting on the bride's uncle (the one who walked her down the aisle).

It could be much, much, worse.

Answer 3

My mother in law is a great dresser so I didnt realy have a problem but this is what we did and it might help you.  My father in law walked me down the isle and my step dad was a groomsman so I felt like the moms got left out a little.  So I asked them to match the bridal party so they would fit in with their husbands matching every one.  My mom wore a floor length apple red dress to match the bridesmaids and his mom wore a floor length black dress to match the groomsman because they were all black including their shirts.  We also had them walk down the isle together.  If you took her shoping and made it a big deal that she matches her son she may go for it.  Have her try on some more formal gounds and emphasize how "elegant" she looks and how proud her son will be to have such a young looking mom maybe she will go with what you want.  I know it sounds ridiculous but just use some reverse psychology on her.  She will probibly feel like your including her more.  Good luck

Answer 4

My now ex-mother-in law wore a lovely green dress cut down to her waist, had a 1940's era fox stole draped around her shoulders....complete with head, legs, and tail...., wore 40's platform shoes, had her hair pinned up willy-nilly, and a 40's veiled hat. My now ex-husband's brother wore tails, patented leather loafers with a satin bow, and spats without socks. My ex-father-in-law's comb over was glued to his head until a big gust of wind came up.

I don't think that you realize the photo ops you'll be missing if you choose to help your future mother-in-law shop. I realize that it is your day but her baby is getting married that day. Let her wear what she wants and enjoy the show! You, your friends, and family will have something to grin and talk about for years to come. I know......this happened to me over 25 years ago.......

I just wish my second husband's mother could have lived one more year to see us get married. She was 92, had Alzhimer's, had the most wild unrully curly hair,  insisted on wearing her dead husband's clothes, and told the same story a million times. She would have loved to have been at our wedding and I wouldn't have cared if she wore her holey plaid shirt. She would have been happy knowing her son was getting married and he, himself was happy.

Sometimes a daughter-in-law to be just has to step back, sigh, shake her head and make the best with what she has to work with.

Congratulations, Good Luck, and enjoy your day!

Answer 5

You can't. You can make suggestions about what would look good on her, or offer to go shopping with her and suggest appropriate outfits. In the end, though, she's an adult and she can wear whatever she wants.

Don't lose sleep over it - she'll look like a fool and you'll be classy.

Answer 6

Suggest that the two of you go shopping together for her outfit. Take her someplace like David's Bridal or Dillard's that only sell nice things and try to influence her decision. If that doesn't work just grin and bear it, keep in mind that she's the one making an idiot out of herself, not you.

Answer 7

You should grow up before you get married =)

Answer 8

honey you can't.  just change the wedding date and don;t tell her.  my MIL is a s**t and the women been married 4 times.

Answer 9

The only thing is to go shopping with her directly and work with her to achieve the appropriate look for the day.

Good luck,  sounds like a piece of work!

Answer 10

First off, from experience...with that kind of disrespect toward your future mother in law (whatever she has done to you lately or in the past), only make your relationship with her harder...try to be the bigger person and try to kill her with kindness...you're probably hurting your fiances feelings if he knows how you feel about her...with you being the positive person...it will make your relationship with your fiance and your mother in law a lot more better than before...and it will really get more better once kids are in the picture.

Go shopping with her and with your mom...your mom can help you and her to get the right/appropriate dress to wear for your wedding...(etiquette says that the mother of groom cant outshine the mother of the bride and you want them to compliment each others dresses)

Good Luck and Congratulations!!

ps she is the way she is...she is 58, and old habits die hard...she is not going to embarrass you...only herself...and people do pick up on those things...so dont worry...be happy.

Answer 11

ask her nicely to put something more suitable to the wedding like a dress something not to tight and short fancey or go pick her a out fit and give it to her as a present and say this would be nice for the wedding?

Answer 12

Like the Bride in Texas suggested make a date for the pair of you to go out shopping for the mother of the grooms dress.  Attempt to inspire her to purchase clothes that you find more appropriate then she, and if necessary feel free to tell her that that dress isn't appropriate.  Let her know that this is your and her son's big day and you want to have some nice photos with her in that pretty dress she has on (whatever works).  And try and remember for every negative try and come up with 2 or 3 positives.  The human ego is a pretty tender animal but you sound wise and mature enough to get her to play along with you on that date.  Plus is she states that she refuses to wear what you prefer you may have to call in the reinforcements and have your future husband lay down the law with his mother.  Best of luck.