How can i prove to my family that i have changed?

Question

How can i prove to my family that i have changed?

Answer 1

Have you tried telling them the truth and setting the example.

Answer 2

actions speak louder than words, my friend.  show them.  be patient, though, it takes a while.

Answer 3

Keep your mouth shut and prove it with your actions.

The length of time will vary.

If you've finally learned to put the toilet seat back down when you use your sister's bathroom, a couple of weeks.

If you stole your grandmother's diamonds to buy cocaine, then served 3 - 5 years for manslaughter after running down a pedestrian while high, it will take about 10 - 20 years.

Answer 4

What do you mean by 'I have changed'?  Are you talking about fighting all the time and being physically violent?  Drinking?  Drugs?

These sorts of things will take time for your family to get past because in these types of situations, no matter which one you are meaning, whether you realize it or not, you have hurt someone and they are going to need time to slowly build trust back up to see that you aren't going to go back to your old ways and it isn't something that is going to happen overnight or that they are going to see as 'well, he/she has changed, so welcome home.'

Back in 1988, I had a secret drug addiction to meth and my life was spiraling out of control to the point where I had a $150 A DAY habit and in May of 1995, my secret was revealed when I was busted for Possession and Being Under the Influence of a Controlled Substance.

My entire family (my aunt, uncle and cousins) looked down on me as really having had screwed up and even though I had my mom's full 100% love and support, everyone else shunned me and pretended I didn't exist by avoiding me whenever possible.

I went thru a rehab program, the 12-Step programs of both Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous <which are the same except one is for drugs and the other is for alcohol>  and even after I successfully completed all of it (I've been 100% clean since May 12, 1995), it took a really long time for my family to get over the betrayal they felt for me and even to this day, even though they are back to accepting me as a part of the family, there is a certain sense of hurt that I can still feel, even to this day that will never go away.

Just remember...TIME WILL HEAL THE SITUATION, BUT NOTHING WILL EVER BE EXACTLY THE SAME AS IT WAS BEFORE THE TRUST THEY HAD FOR YOU WAS BROKEN.