How can i rebuild the trust in my wife & no i never cheated on her we had a row & slagged each other off and?

Question

pushed her and she broke her hip and she said was totaly out of carractor and said it was a accident but wont trust me again i love her to bits ive sent flowers ,cards ,even put up a 50 foot banner to say i was an a*****e the last time we spoke was saying that she cant trust me again need help to resovle this c**p and not some c**p to tell me i was wrong i know i was so i dont need some idiot to tell me ,i miss her so much

Answer 1

Maybe you can't. I really liked my horse. I like riding with my wife. She got on mine one day. He ran away with her and threw her and knocked her out. She is not about to get back on a horse again. Can't trust them.

Now, he never offered to do anything like that before. She was on him because her horse was acting up, and she wanted a nice finish to the day. Point is, she trusted him. She was wrong. She could be wrong again.

On the scale of damage done in domestic violence, inflicting a hip fracture runs right up there near the top. And, purely speaking of domestic violence in general, the numbers, for all that only apply as a whole, say you'll do worse.

You ask her, not to come back, but to come with you to counseling at the local women's center. I know. You'll be walking into the lioness' den, and there's even a good chance you catch some abuse there. But she'll feel safe with you there, and a third party can maybe help her develop some confidence in her trust, which was already wrong once.

Shut up. It was wrong. You knocked her down. Don't downplay it. Take the c**p and make an honest effort. You never know. Hey. At least you're not having to work it around your jail weekends or probation meetings. But know that long-term incurable abusers also use the flowers and banners approach, and you can't trust them to anything but do it again. You have to do something that means something.

Answer 2

I don't think this question can be answered with out sharp words. You physically abused your wife. I don't think you're going to get a sympathetic shoulder.  

Answer 3

you are lucky you haven't been arrested for assault. I would focus on what you need to do for yourself to get your anger issues sorted out. If you seriously care about her you will get into some anger management counseling. Do it as soon as possible. If she comes back to you then great, if she doesn't at least you are doing something that will make sure that you have changed for the better.  

Answer 4

Do you really love her or do you just want her back so you can abuse her again?  Only you can answer this.

If it truly was a mistake and you want to get back with her you need some serious help.

Answer 5

u abused her and she broke her hip??

wow she is totally RIGHT to never trust u again

if i was her, i would never even come near u and possibly file a restraining order since u wont leave her the h**l alone

next time, think twice before u decide to raise ur hand on someone

Answer 6

i would just leave her to get on with it.

i mean even if you do get back together again she will always have that fall back to go onto when you have an argument and she will use it al the time

so just stay out of it

you did it to yourself

Answer 7

offer to go to counseling or anger management to show her you are serious.